13 Ways Womanizers Give Themselves Away — Signs To Look Out For

Are you the only woman he’s going to be with? If you’re looking for a committed relationship but you’re worried he’s going to be sleeping around behind your back, you’ve got to hit the pause button on your feelings and suss him out for any signs that he’s a player. Here are 13 ways womanizers give themselves away without even realizing it.

1. He’s a social media sleaze. When you check out his social media profiles, he’s always got tons of posts and comments from other women. He “likes” a lot of their bikini selfies and comments on how hot they are. Ugh. Worst of all, when you peruse his friends or followers lists, they’re packed with half-naked women.
   
2. He’s a speedy dater. From the second he meets you, it feels like you’re racing to your destination. Let’s hope it’s not heartbreak! Womanizers move fast. He gets off on the challenge of trying to win you over. Don’t be surprised when he gets you into his bed only to become bored with you soon afterward.
   
3. He’s following a script. When you spend time with this guy, does it feel like he’s always super-smooth and charming? Does every word that comes out of his mouth sound like velvet? If he comes off as perfect, you might get the feeling he’s done this with women before. Hmmm, especially if it feels like he’s reading from a script that he’s polished to have the effect on you that he wants.
   
4. He’s desperate to get to know you… then never does. Womanizers make promises to you right off the bat. He also gives you tons of praise, although never the right compliments that you really want to hear. He’ll say things like, “Oh wow, you’re so gorgeous and amazing!” and mention that he wants to know everything about you. But then he’s never actually taking an interest in your mind, your personality, or what you’re about.
   
5. He keeps you stuck in one dating phase. Although you and the guy are having a great time together, you keep expecting the next dating phase to happen but it never does. You never meet his friends, go to his place because he’s always coming to yours, and so on. Womanizers will keep you stuck in one dating phase with no chance of moving to a more intense level of commitment. 
6. He’s loved by many women. When he’s around women, they’re always drawn to him. They love his humor and charm, and he relishes being in the spotlight. He craves attention, and unfortunately you’re the next one he’s hoping to charm.
   
7. He’s never in one place for long. You have an amazing text chat or date with him, then he vanishes for a few days. It feels like you can’t keep him around for as long as you want. That’s the classic sign of womanizers — they’re always chasing multiple women and trying to stay under the radar.
   
8. He’s earned a reputation. If other women know about this guy’s tactics and warn you about them, pay attention. How can they all be wrong? Although you shouldn’t believe what anyone tells you, it’s important to guard your heart and keep an eye out for the signs that they’re right and he’s got issues, so you don’t fall into his trap. 
9. His eyes are always elsewhere. While it’s NBD if the guy you’re with checks out other women sometimes, it’s a problem if you feel that he’s looking around at everyone else in the pub or restaurant instead of you. And it’s the way he looks, like he’s undressing them with his eyes. Ugh.
   
10. He’s always put together. It’s great when you meet a guy who knows how to dress and looks good, but if he’s always perfectly put together you might start to wonder if this is the image he’s trying to sell. Womanizers might try to be flashy, whether with his appearance or status items, to try to be as attractive to women as possible. If it feels like he’s always showing off his latest shoes or car, be warned you could be dealing with a womanizer who’s trying to impress you.
    
11. He doesn’t have a type. What’s his dating type? His type is women. Womanizers appear to be interested in different types of women, which could seem refreshing, but it can also make you puzzled. You might wonder if he’s just so keen to date and have flings with multiple women that he’s not too picky.
    
12. He clams up at relationship talk. When you try to get to know him and what he thinks about relationships, or if he wants one, he becomes the king of one-word texts. The minute you change the subject to flirting, he finds his voice and becomes super-talkative. How freaking convenient.
    
13. His previous relationships are disastrous. While most people have had drama-filled relationships, it’s a red flag if a guy’s past is littered with relationships that have crashed and burned. Double red flag if the guy’s been unfaithful to many women or he’s jumped from one casual hookup to another. Womanizers struggle to have any kind of success in relationships, so if it’s going wrong one too many times, you know you’re in trouble.