Hardly a day goes by without hearing or thinking about these “walls” we put up in life and relationships. We unconsciously try to protect ourselves from getting hurt in life, but sometimes in doing this, we end up keeping out a lot of good stuff instead — and we still get hurt, too. Here are some reasons why you should try wearing your heart on your sleeve, no matter how risky a move it might be.
People will get to know the real you. You’ll never have to worry about weird parts of your personality coming out later if you just let them out from the get go.
You’ll know faster who is around for the right reasons. Your sincerity of emotion will weed out all the guys that are interested in different levels of relationship than you are.
You’ll realize flirting can be fun. When you’re wearing your heart on your sleeve, you might as well stop hiding from intimidating guys at the bar and actually start talking to them.
Your life will open up in a variety of ways. Think about the differences between your friends in regards to their energy alone. Closed off people live in smaller worlds, while those who take chances seem to have miraculous success stories.
Fewer games. It’s a lot easier to communicate when you’re saying what you mean. Amazing how that works! Now just to figure out what to do with all that time leftover when your life is drama-free…
Because being open isn’t the same as giving too much. There is a huge difference between judgmental and being discerning when it comes to planning who to let into your life. Boundaries are necessary to keep the pathological liars away, but walls against everyone who reminds you of your ex are not.
It’s the definition of romantic. When you wear your heart on your sleeve, it’s easier to tap into those magical fairytale ideas about love. It could happen any minute, any where, and you know it.
You don’t have as many “what if”s. Half of heartache (at least) is filled with the shoulda woulda couldas that you just didn’t do. But if we tried our best every time, there’s less to obsess about if something doesn’t work.
You show your affection. Instead of being concerned about the high levels of your PDA, your motto is more like, “Look on, because this stuff is awesome.”
You can actually appreciate your exes. The breakup wasn’t fun, but you loved a lot about him and you always will. There’s nothing wrong with seeing the good in people.
The wrong things won’t work out no matter what. Ever think about why you have such strong walls up with certain people? What if some of that is less about our personal issues and more about trusting our gut? It’s easier to be open with the right people.
You’ll worry less about the small details. It doesn’t worry you that this dude you like lives across country, you’re up for the adventure however it turns out.
Rejection happens faster. And probably stings less because you didn’t waste any time getting overly attached to the wrong people. It’s more natural to just keep it moving.
It requires that you believe that people are good. Of course you know that not everyone is deserving of your time and affection, but overall you’d like to think that the world is a safe place to be.