Someone’s considered to be a low-value person when they don’t bring any value or joy to your life. Perhaps they’re highly selfish, always focusing on themselves while putting you down. You want to remove yourself from this type of person before they drain you. Here are 15 obvious signs you’re dealing with someone who isn’t worth your time.
1. They drag you down instead of uplifting you.
Someone who keeps belittling you, such as by criticizing all of your choices, wants to hurt you instead of loving you. Chances are, they don’t love themselves, and they’re projecting this onto the people around them by treating them poorly. By putting everyone down, they’re trying to elevate themselves from their shortcomings and insecurities.
2. They don’t respect your time.
A low-value person only cares about their schedule and time. They’ll leave you waiting for hours because they always run late. Or, they’ll spend hours with you on the phone venting about their problems, with no consideration of your time. They’re unreliable and can’t be counted on. They don’t care if you’re busy or dealing with your own issues; they’ll always try to dominate your time in a selfish way that makes you feel like you don’t matter.
3. They’re always raging.
Someone who’s negative is going to be complaining about everything all the time. They’ll drain your energy with their pessimistic views about themselves and other people. Instead of seeing opportunities in life, they only see problems and challenges. Their negativity can result in a victim mindset, where they feel helpless and expect others to uplift them. It’s so taxing!
4. They’re ungrateful.
If someone doesn’t appreciate the value you bring to their life, they’re a low-value person. Maybe you do things for them to make them happy on a daily basis and they don’t even know how to say “thank you.” They’re ungrateful, and it’s making you feel unappreciated and unworthy of their love. You deserve better.
5. They act entitled to everything.
When someone’s a low-value individual, they’ll walk around as though the world owes them. Their entitled attitude makes them come across as selfish and arrogant. They might expect you to always be there for them, thinking you were put on this earth to make them happy. Or, they might want you to prioritize all of their needs and forget about your own because they think they’re above your boundaries.
6. They’ve got bad manners.
One of the easiest ways to spot a low-value person is to check their manners. If they disrespect those around them, like interrupting others during a conversation or being rude to service workers, this is a huge red flag. If they have no shame in treating others poorly and feel superior to everyone around them, it’s time to cut the chord.
7. They boast about everything.
Some people will brag about their success and achievements, always seeking opportunities to do so because it makes them feel good about themselves. It’s an obvious move to get validation that shows a lack of self-confidence and humility. Constantly boasting can also lead to a loss of credibility—people might see the boaster as dishonest or an exaggerator, which results in a lack of respect.
8. They don’t consider your family and friends.
When dating a low-value person, you’ll notice they don’t try to make an effort to connect with your loved ones. They might claim to care about you, but if that were true they’d want to have relationships with your family and friends. If they’re rude to your loved ones or always find excuses to not spend time with them, they don’t want to be a part of your life. Or, even worse, they might be trying to isolate you from loved ones so they can control you.
9. They have zero empathy.
You want to be able to express your true feelings to those around you, but you can’t do that with a low-value person. They lack empathy, so they’ll brush off your emotions or make you feel shameful for feeling them. You won’t gain any emotional support from them, which makes it highly challenging to connect and bond with them. You might even wind up feeling invisible in the relationship.
10. They’re lazy.
Someone who’s lazy lacks ambition and motivation. Maybe they want to play video games all day or lie around in bed instead of doing something productive. Sure, a little bit of that is called being a human, but if they’re fully wasting their lives, that’s a red flag. They might also wait for others to pick up the slack for tasks they don’t do, which can create resentment and strain their relationships.
11. They’re vain about their appearance.
Someone who places too much emphasis on their external appearance might value superficial qualities over deeper, more meaningful aspects of life. If they’re too worried about maintaining their physical image above all else, they might be neglecting their emotional and spiritual well-being. A relationship with them could lack emotional intimacy and closeness and they might choose partners based on physical appearance instead of personality traits like intelligence and kindness.
12. They’re quick to tell you lies.
If the person you’ve just met is already lying about small things, it’s a huge red flag that you shouldn’t put your trust in them. Why? Well, if they’re willing to compromise ethical standards for their personal gain, that shows a lack of integrity. It’s difficult to trust someone when your relationship is filled with doubt about who someone really is.
13. They lack emotional regulation.
It’s difficult being around someone who can’t control their emotions. They might exhibit disruptive behaviors such as angry outbursts, unhealthy strategies for coping with stress, and regular mood swings. This is distressing to others and can negatively impact their relationships. If you’re dating someone who displays unpredictable emotional responses, protect yourself and walk away.
14. They guilt-trip you.
When someone tries to make you feel guilty, they’re trying to persuade you to do what they want. Maybe your partner tries to guilt you for wanting a life outside of the relationship, or a friend tries to gain your sympathy so you prioritize their needs over yours. It’s a low-value behavior to control and manipulate you.
15. They’re inconsistent.
Someone who gives you mixed messages, like showing interest one minute and then giving you the cold shoulder the next, can be viewed as a low-value person. While they might think their behavior is no big deal, they’re selfishly playing with your emotions. Stay away.
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