What are women looking for in a man? To some, the answer is elusive and difficult to grasp. While the specific habits and personality traits a woman is attracted to will vary—and not every woman is going to be romantically interested in you, no matter how great you are—there are a few signs you can look out for that confirm she thinks you’re one of the good ones. If you’re getting this positive feedback from any of the women in your life, consider it a good sign, because you have the traits women are looking for.
1. She isn’t hot and cold with you.
When a woman isn’t sure about you, she might be hard to read. She’ll seem interested one minute and nonchalant the next. But if she can tell you’re one of the good ones, she’ll be on board from the get-go and won’t bother playing games. You should never have to wonder if she likes you.
2. She treats you with respect.
Women can tell when you’re the kind of guy who treats women with genuine respect. That means you value their opinions, boundaries, and autonomy in all interactions. If she sees that in you, she’ll reciprocate in kind because she knows #1 you wouldn’t put up with anything less, and #2 you deserve to be treated the way you treat others.
3. She tells you her secrets.
A woman who opens up to you about something she’s going through is saying that you’re worthy of being part of her inner circle. She knows you won’t use the information against her and that you’ll react in a kind, supportive way. That means she trusts you, which is very high on a woman’s list of must-haves in any guy she’s going to consider dating.
4. She’d set you up with one of her friends in a heartbeat.
If she’s not the one dating you, then she’s actively looking for someone else who will. If she’s willing to vouch for you with one of her friends, that means she genuinely believes you’re a catch and she’s confident that other women will feel the same.
5. She encourages your goals.
Every woman is looking for a man who is capable of realizing his full potential, and by encouraging you, she’s offering her moral support. If she’s supportive of you going after your dreams, she genuinely believes you can achieve them.
6. She’s herself around you.
Being able to let her guard down and just be herself is invaluable for women in both romantic and platonic relationships. If she’s her unapologetically weird self when she’s with you, that means she trusts you and is comfortable with you. It’s only up from there.
7. She jokes around with you.
Every woman is looking for a man who can make her laugh. If you’re able to joke around with each other and have fun together, that means she gets—and appreciates—your sense of humor, which is a huge plus if you’re looking for a relationship.
8. She tells others about you.
From her friends to her family to her dental hygienist, she’s always talking about you. That means she’s proud to have you in her life and she wants other people to know how great you are and how lucky she is. She wouldn’t brag about you if she didn’t genuinely think you could live up to the hype.
9. She asks for your opinion.
If she needs advice on something like a work problem or an issue between her and a friend, she’ll ask you what you think. She might not always agree with your ideas on how to handle things, but the point is, she asked, which means she trusts your opinion.
10. She tells you when she’s upset with you.
Women want men who can handle criticism constructively and know how to talk through conflict. If she’s coming to you directly to talk about your issues, it’s because she believes you can have a calm, productive conversation and resolve your problems together. That’s an invaluable trait in a partner.
11. She relies on you.
Women are looking for men they can count on. That means you follow through on your promises, you do what you say you’re going to do, and you’re consistent. If she’s relying on you to take care of things that she could technically do herself, it’s because she’s trusting you to not let her down.
12. She invites you to things.
Experiencing new things together is a great way to build a strong bond. If she’s going out of her way to think of things to do together, like trying new restaurants or going on a weekend trip, it’s because she wants to get to know you better and she thinks you’ll have fun. That means she thinks you’re pretty cool.
13. She’s always there for you.
Women know how important support is in a relationship and that’s what she expects from a guy. In return, she will not hesitate to show you the same level of support. Whether you need someone to talk to or you just need a hug, she will be there because she genuinely cares about you and wants you to be okay.
14. She wants to learn more about your family.
Women want a guy who cares about his family and has values that complement hers. From questions about your childhood to what your relationship with your parents is like, she’s interested in learning how you got to where you are today. If she shows genuine interest in who you are, it’s because she thinks you’re worth the effort.
15. She gives you compliments.
If she’s saying you’re funny, kind, generous, and easy to be around, then that means she really believes it. She thinks you’re great and she can’t keep it to herself! There isn’t a more obvious sign that you’re exactly what she’s looking for in a guy—so keep doing what you’re doing!
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