10 Unmistakable Signs You’re Dating A Respectful Man (And Not Just A Charmer)

Figuring out if you’re with someone who truly respects you is crucial in a relationship. It’s not always about grand gestures or big promises; it’s the everyday actions and words that will tell you if the guy in your life stands up as someone who genuinely values you. Here are 10 straightforward signs that you’re dating a man who’s respectful through and through.

1. He Listens More Than He Speaks.

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When you’re dating a respectful man, you’ll notice he really listens to what you’re saying. He’s not interrupting or just waiting for his turn to talk, but actively listening. He remembers the little things you say, and he uses that info to either bring you joy or help you out. He’s not being passive – he’s valuing your voice as much as his own.

2. He Supports Your Dreams.

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When you’re dating a respectful man, he’s your biggest cheerleader even if your dreams are as wild as starting a rock band or as ambitious as climbing the corporate ladder. He’s not competing with you; he’s right there with a high-five, celebrating your victories and encouraging you after defeats. This kind of support is rare and it’s gold.

3. He Values Your Opinion.

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Whether it’s a global issue or what to have for dinner, he genuinely cares about what you think. It’s not a nod-and-smile situation; he really considers your views. This means that your opinions could sway the decisions he makes, whether they’re big or small, because he believes your perspective is just as important as his own. (And hey, if you want to up your chances of finding a guy like this, our sister site, Sweetn, can help. They have science-backed tips, tricks, and advice to totally change your luck in love in just a few weeks.)

4. He Makes Time for You.

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Life can get hectic, but no matter how busy he is, he makes time for you. And it’s not just fitting you into his schedule; it’s making sure you know you’re a priority to him. He’s not giving you the leftover scraps of his day; he’s sharing the parts of life that matter. This doesn’t mean monopolizing your time or demanding all of yours – it’s about carving out that space for the two of you to connect.

5. He Keeps His Promises.

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A man who respects you is as good as his word. If he says he’ll be there, he’s there. If he makes a commitment, he follows through. This reliability is a cornerstone of respect. It shows he values you and your time, and he’s not about to let you down because he knows trust is built on actions, not just words.

6. He’s Open About His Feelings.

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He’s not a closed book or a cryptic puzzle you’re left to solve. Unlike many guys, he doesn’t struggle to talk about his feelings. If he’s happy, sad, or worried, he’s open about it. This isn’t about emotional dumping; it’s about mutual openness. He respects you enough to share his emotional world with you, allowing for a deeper, more sincere connection.

7. He Respects Your Boundaries.

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A respectful man understands the importance of personal boundaries. He doesn’t push you to do things you’re uncomfortable with and he pays attention when you express your limits. This respect for your boundaries applies across the board – from how you spend your time, to your personal space, and everything in between. He gets that “no” means “no,” and “stop” means “stop,” without any hidden messages or codes to decipher.

8. He Doesn’t Play Blame Games.

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In disagreements, a respectful partner doesn’t throw blame around to take the heat off himself. He owns his part of the problem and works with you to find a solution. This is about accountability and not making you the scapegoat for issues that arise. It’s a sign of maturity and respect, acknowledging that issues in a relationship are rarely one-sided.

9. He Doesn’t Make You Feel Guilty for Your Success.

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He’s secure enough in himself that your successes bring him joy, not jealousy. You won’t find him belittling your achievements or trying to one-up you. A respectful man is proud to be with you, and your accomplishments are a source of happiness, not competition. He’s in your corner, not keeping score.

10. He’s Kind to Everyone.

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Respect for you extends to respect for all. Watch how he treats others; this is often a good indicator of a person’s character. He’s kind to the waiter, patient with the cashier, and polite to strangers. It’s not an act for show; it’s just who he is. Someone who is respectful by nature doesn’t switch it off outside of your relationship.

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Piper Ryan is a NYC-based writer and matchmaker who works to bring millennials who are sick of dating apps and the bar scene together in an organic and efficient way. To date, she's paired up more than 120 couples, many of whom have gone on to get married. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, Time Out New York, The Cut, and many more.

In addition to runnnig her own business, Piper is passionate about charity work, advocating for vulnerable women and children in her local area and across the country. She is currently working on her first book, a non-fiction collection of stories focusing on female empowerment.
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