15 Social Media Behaviors You Shouldn’t Accept From Your Boyfriend

Pretty much everyone is on social media these days, but not everyone knows how to use it well and appropriately. When you’re in a relationship, it’s important that you and your partner respect each other even online, which is why these 15 social media behaviors are extremely inappropriate from your boyfriend. Don’t put up with them.

  1. He’s online but doesn’t talk to you. You can see he’s online but he’s ignoring your posts or private messages. WTF? If this happens all the time, you have to wonder why he’s dissing you online and what’s taking all his attention. It’s like he wants to keep his online persona separate from you, which is pretty shady.
  2. He interacts with other women. Every time you log onto Facebook, there are women posting things on his wall. It starts to feel disrespectful if the messages have a flirtatious edge to them. He should have boundaries with other women and no, flirting online isn’t harmless even if he tries to insist it is.
  3. He won’t change his relationship status. Even though you’ve been dating for three months, he refuses to change his Facebook relationship status. He might claim that he wants to keep his relationship private or that he just doesn’t mention his relationship status at all so it’s really nothing personal. That’s ridiculous! He just doesn’t want people to know he’s taken.
  4. He hides things from you. Maybe he prevents you from seeing his friend list or it seems like chunks of his Facebook timeline are missing. WTF? He’s clearly got something to hide from you and you should confront him about it.
  5. He’s always online but not responding to your messages. If he’s always on Facebook but he doesn’t “like” any posts or post status updates, what the hell is he doing on there? Is he spending all his time messaging people privately? Hmm…
  6. He doesn’t “like” your posts about your relationship. When you share how amazing your boyfriend is or a cute couple selfie, many of your friends “like” it but your boyfriend seems to go AWOL during those times. Instead of “liking” and commenting with some love for you in return, he remains silent, like he doesn’t want people to see evidence of him being in a relationship.
  7. He posts pictures of everyone but you. When he’s having a family get-together, he’ll tag his brother in a pic. When he’s at work, he’ll throw a corporate selfie onto his wall. When he’s chilling with his best friend, she’ll be tagged in a picture. Um, what about you? It’s like he’s completely ignoring his relationship.
  8. He connects to hypersexual women. If your boyfriend’s Facebook friend list or Instagram follower list is full of accounts that seem provocative—yes, dude, they’re fake profiles, you idiot —it’s a problem. Why would he need to connect with such women if he’s in a relationship with you?
  9. He won’t accept your friend request. You started dating a guy and then asked if he’s on Facebook. He seemed keen to add you but then didn’t reply to your friend request. So weird. It’s like he’s hoping to keep his account private while dating you. He might spin you some excuse like, “I’m never on Facebook anymore” but don’t buy it. Delete the request and block his account instead.
  10. He acts like a jerk online. If you log onto Facebook or Twitter and keep seeing your boyfriend post really annoying, discriminatory, or sexist updates, it’s really a bad sign. He’s an a-hole and you don’t want to be associated with him because he’s just making you look bad.
  11. His ex is always in the picture. You regularly see your boyfriend’s ex firing up his Facebook wall or posting cute comments to his Instagram posts. Sometimes they both seem to engage in chats in which they reminisce about their previous relationship. Ugh. It’s not cool or fair on you if he’s allowing her to play such an important role in his social media. Be clear about this and if he doesn’t change, walk away so he can stay in the past seeing as though he loves it so much.
  12. He takes loads of selfiesWhat’s the harm in your boyfriend sharing five selfies every day? He’s clearly an attention-seeker! If his pictures are always of him looking sexy or half-naked, you have to wonder why he’s acting like a single guy if he’s in a relationship. Plus, let’s be real: even if he’s fully clothed in all his pics, it’s embarrassing to see and makes you worry he’s a narc.
  13. He shares news online before you hear it. Instead of telling you about his excellent work presentation or that his sister just gave birth to her baby, you discover the news on Facebook. You’re supposed to be more important to him than his 235 followers, FFS.
  14. He tags you against your wishes. No one should get tagged in pics without their consent, and if your boyfriend keeps uploading pics of you looking tired or drunk during a night out even though he knows you don’t want the world to see them, then he’s a jerk.
  15. He passive-aggressively posts. Airing your relationship dirty laundry is unacceptable! Your boyfriend might be doing this in a subtle way, like posing on Facebook how cute it is when women get angry about a boyfriend who doesn’t call when he said he would… after you got mad with him for not calling you! If he’s posting anything private about your relationship, he wants attention from his friends or he’s trying to get the message across to you because he’s too much of a coward to do it in person. Lose that man-child!
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.