15 Ways To Cut Negativity Out Of Your Life ASAP

If you’re an emotionally sensitive and intelligent person, it can be hard not to let other people’s issues, complaints, and bad attitudes — not to mention your own troubles — get you down, but it doesn’t have to be that way. You don’t have to be a slave to Here’s how to cut bad vibes and negativity out of your life for good. After all, life is too short to waste on being miserable.

  1. Kick your pessimistic attitude to the curb. Your mental state determines a lot about how you look and feel in life. Obviously life will throw a curveball your way every once in a while and you are allowed to react to that, but in general, attitude is everything. If you tell yourself you feel good then you will. If you refuse to have a bad day then you’ll have a good day. If you smile more, you’ll be happier. It’s all about training your mind to see the good in everything.
  2. Develop your self-belief. Be confident and believe that you’re worth it — “it” being everything. You have goals, you have potential and you have purpose in life. You can do anything you want and the only person that truly needs to believe in you is YOU. When you know you’re capable of everything, nothing will be able to knock you down.
  3. Dedicate your time to things that fulfill you. Put your time into things that will actually make a substantial difference to your life. Don’t just resort to getting drunk every weekend or being a couch potato having a never-ending Netflix marathon. Everyone needs to chill sometimes, but sometimes getting off your ass and doing something meaningful in a way will make you feel like a million bucks.
  4. Read enlightening books. The more you read, the smarter you’ll be. It’s true. Reading interesting books can have such an impact on your outlook on life. When you completely get lost in a story, it becomes your own and you take away more than you realize. They aren’t just words on pages, they’re worlds full of endless possibilities that make you a more empathetic and compassionate person, not to mention a person who sees the beautiful things the world has to offer.
  5. Drop the players. For good. This is one of the best things you can do for your life. STOP hanging out and dating guys who aren’t worth your time. They don’t care about you and you shouldn’t care about them either because they really aren’t good enough. Don’t settle because you’re lonely; wait because you’re worth it.
  6. Lose the toxic friends. Your friends are also a huge indicator of the energy you’ll possess. If you have crappy “friends” who are anything but loyal and supportive, stop hanging out with them. There are too many good people out there who know the true meaning of friendship to spend time on fair-weather friends who will only let you down time and time again.
  7. Surround yourself with people who make you better. You’re smart, ambitious, independent, funny, caring and have a lot of love to give — and the people you spend time with should have those qualities and then some.
  8. Ditch the bad attitude. Different from pessimism, you might be a glass half-full person with a crappy attitude about anything and anyone who doesn’t meet your high standards. If you talk crap, roll your eyes and refuse to be understanding, you’re only hurting yourself. No one likes a b*tch with a bad attitude. Do yourself a favor and be nice, understanding and open to the unfamiliar.
  9. Stop judging people — you don’t know where they’ve been. Judging others just makes you a cold-hearted and naive person. When you judge someone, it says a lot more about your character than it does about theirs and reveals traits that you probably don’t want the world to see. Learning to accept people and situations for what they are and trying to empathize with others will have an immense impact on your life in the best possible way.
  10. Avoid drama at all costs. Don’t worry about what other people are up to — as long as they aren’t threatening you, leave it be. I swear that no one is worth the argument or gossip. A person who feeds off drama is usually immature and insecure. Prove to others how humble you are by not giving a crap about what they’re doing and focusing on your own life.
  11. Stop being your own enemy. The only person who really has the power to make things negative is you. Of course there are other contributing factors, but happiness is a conscious choice. If you tell yourself you’re going to fail then you will. It’s a mind game and all you have to do is be your own best friend.
  12. Meditate. When the world spins you around and makes you go crazy, stop, close your eyes, and take a deep breath. Learn how to calm yourself down in the situations that require it the most. Meditation and good vibes can do wonders for your mind and your body. You’ll feel a lot better after doing it than you think.
  13. Always, always pursue your dreams. No excuses on this one. If you have a big dream, if there are things you want to accomplish and places you want to go, you must do them. You owe it to yourself. Embrace anything that sets your soul on fire and block all negativity — you don’t need it.
Jennifer Still is a writer and editor with more than 10 years of experience. The managing editor of Bolde, she has bylines in Vanity Fair, Business Insider, The New York Times, Glamour, Bon Appetit, and many more. You can follow her on Twitter @jenniferlstill