Not every display of affection has to be dramatic and over the top to be valuable, and some of the most intimate and thoughtful gestures can mean the most to us. Enter Introverts. They have mastered subtlety in love, and it’s about time we show appreciation for the more low-key people in our lives. So it’s worth taking a page from our introverted friends and partners’ unique style of showing affection. It might just be the type of love we’ve been missing. Here are some ways that introverts show love differently:
1. They make your house a home.
Being the kings’ and queens’ of staying home means the introvert in your life will make that space extra cozy. Whether it’s the soft blankets and pillows littering every surface or the fridge stocked with the best munchies, introverts will pour their effort into making the place you both inhabit better.
2. It may not be their preference, but they try anyway.
Nothing is more endearing than our homebody partner venturing into the world with us. They may not always be the most social butterfly at the party, but their willingness to try shows they have a lot of love and respect for our desires.
3. They express themselves through actions, not words.
Introverts may not love speaking up for themselves and may find verbally expressing love draining. However, there is no shortage of other ways to express this. They will make you tea, cook dinner, do your laundry, and so on. You must know where to look, but introverts will melt your heart once you see it.
4. They will give you space.
Introverts know firsthand how draining it can be to be around someone 24/7, which means they’ll be more willing to give you space when needed. Being willing to step back and think about your needs indicates how much someone cares for you.
5. They’re great listeners with a love for deep conversation.
One thing about introverts is that they hate small talk; however, this doesn’t disqualify them from enjoying talking altogether. Introverts are likelier to enjoy a conversation of a deeper variety, like the meaning of life. They’re also great at hearing you out as it’s a role they’re more naturally comfortable filling.
6. They’ll be thoughtful.
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Introverts are known for having a rich inner world and a pension for details. With this in mind, you’ll never have to worry about your introverted partner forgetting your anniversary. Not only will they remember the details you give them, but they also are likely able to come up with things that you never would have considered (which you’ll love just as much).
7. They’ll keep your secrets.
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Not being super socially charged does have its upsides. Your introverted friend is more likely to keep the things you don’t want shared with the general public under wraps. If you value privacy, an introvert will be your best confidante.
8. They’ll choose to be around you.
If you value alone time, giving it up for another person can be a big sacrifice. Here’s the good news: Introverts can still feel socially charged in intimate situations. It may not always be in a high-energy setting, but the introvert in your life will try to bring you close whenever possible.
9. They skip confrontations for productive critiques.
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If an introvert struggles with a friend or partner’s behavior, it will likely take a lot of energy to bring it up, especially if they fear a long, drawn-out argument. In turn, they think extra hard about what they’re trying to say and how they say it, meaning a gentler delivery.
10. They’re patient with you.
iStock/DimensionsIntroverts are no strangers to being misunderstood, which could make them more tolerant of the misunderstandings that come up in a relationship. They are self-aware and know it takes them time to open up to others, which means they’ll be more willing to be patient with you as you become more open with them.
11. They cherish the moments of peace.
Some people need to fill every quiet moment with talking, music, or action, but not introverts. They don’t get anxious when quiet moments strike, instead, it can be a much-appreciated reprieve for them that they can use to reflect on and enjoy the moment itself.
12. They’re super tolerant of boundaries.
Introverts have to employ boundaries to protect their social battery. That’s why they’re capable of understanding and respecting a boundary when you set it. They’re also less intrusive or needy than their extroverted counterparts.
13. They can make a night in feel magical.
Sweet, romantic, and creative introverts can turn a simple movie night into an experience. They’re the type to break out the snack tray with all your favorite treats, build a blanket fort, and bust out the projector to take it to the next level. Being in their element energizes them and allows them to bring their best to a loved one.
14. They’re the perfect person to vent to.
Not only will they listen attentively to what you have to say, but they’re also likely to come up with creative solutions. The way they show their love, attention to detail, and creativity while providing a helpful service makes us swoon.
15. They’re loyal to you.
When an introvert says you mean something to them, you should believe it. These people take friendship very seriously, as it can be such a struggle to maintain less deep connections. They’re also less likely to cheat or be in situations that violate your relationship because they just don’t have the energy.
16. They let you see their inner workings.
It’s a treat to have an introvert let you into their inner world (imagine Wonka opening up the Chocolate Factory). These deep-thinking, emotional, and gentle companions have many traits worth loving. Knowing they trust you enough to let you see it will surely make you feel special.
17. They’ll introduce you to a cozier, softer love.
Nothing will ever beat the feeling of lazy afternoons with your honey, romantic picnics, delicious home-cooked food, and cuddling in the softest, fluffiest bed imaginable. Introverts will open your eyes to a whole new brand of affection that may not make the biggest or loudest impact but will still make a big impression on you all the same.
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