You’re a boss b*tch, but it’s not always easy to chase what’s important to you in life, especially if everyone around you has a different idea of what’s cool. But who cares about what’s cool or what everyone else is doing? If you don’t follow your own path and dance to your own tune, you’ll never be happy, and who wants that? If you’re wondering what things you should be standing your ground on no matter what, here are eight that are totes non-negotiable.
1. Your Self-Care Sessions On The Reg
Self-care is talked about so much, it’s not always taken seriously. But self-care is essential if you want to maintain your physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing. The cool thing is that it’s different for everyone, but you should never give up regular self-care sessions, even for that hottie who wants to take you out on the town. So, have that gym session, paint a portrait, or dance around the house. You need time to restore your spirit, ladies.
2. Your Relationship Dealbreakers
Your friend rolls her eyes when you tell her that you won’t date a guy who takes the lead too much on dates, but who cares what others think? They might call you fussy, but you’re just not lowering your standards. Good for you. Your dating dealbreakers need to be set in stone so you don’t neglect your needs or let people walk all over you. ‘Nuff of that. Even if your dealbreakers are sky high, you’ve chosen them for good reason.
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4. Your Values
What do you value in life? What’s important to you? Your values could include things like creativity, stability, honesty, and whatever else you use to direct your life in the right way. While your values might be very different from other people’s values, if they’re important to you, you’ve got to stick to them no matter what! Without them, you can miss out on having experiences that make you feel life is worthwhile. For example, if you ignore your creative spirit, you’ll turn down opportunities to have a creative, exciting career. It’s not worth it.
5. Your Alone Time
It might sound like something that’s NBD, but alone time is a must. You need to have time to do what makes you happy while taking stock of your thoughts and feelings. Or, just to be by yourself without having other people’s non-stop drama. You should try to have some time to yourself daily, but if you’re super busy, at least try to have one evening to yourself where you can turn off your devices and not share the TV remote.
6. Your Right To Express Yourself
Do you feel comfortable enough to express yourself? It’s part of being your authentic self. If your friends or romantic partners don’t allow you to do this, you have to question if it’s worth having them in your life. If you don’t express your thoughts, feelings, and needs, you’re censoring yourself and preventing yourself from being loved for who you are. That sucks! Remember, people who love you want you to show off your most dazzling self, warts and all.
7. Your Relationship Needs
Maybe you focus more on other people’s needs in a relationship instead of yours. Oh no. Or, maybe you’re always going along with what your friends want to do instead of what you’d like to do. That can cause lots of unhappy Saturday nights at your local karaoke bar. Whatever the case, it’s not on. Press pause and think about what you need in your relationships to feel closer to your loved ones and to ensure you’re getting what you need to feel good and be seen for who you are.
8. Your Self-Worth
No one should ever let others take advantage of them. Whether it’s your kindness, money, or time, you can’t always say “yes” to others. You need to stick to the rule of not being a doormat by focusing on your self-worth. If your self-worth is feeling a bit low, you can boost it by doing things like accepting and loving yourself more, trying to be more positive, and challenging yourself to get out of your comfort zone. When you realize your self-worth, your confidence increases and you care less about what others think.
9. Your Emotions
You might not always feel totally confident about expressing your emotions or even feeling them, but don’t stifle them. This is guaranteed to make you feel stressed out and it’s even linked to health problems. Listen, cry if you can’t fight back the tears and smile even if it confuses people. Instead of pushing aside your feelings, push aside people who mock you for showing what you really feel. Leading with your heart is a brave way to live, so stand your ground when it comes to expressing your emotions.
