8 Ways To Test A Guy’s Love For You

Saying “I love you” is a huge step in any relationship and admittedly, it’s nicer when a guy says it first. However, some guys don’t express how they feel very often, which is why it’s more reassuring when they just come out with it. Finding out whether the guy you’re dating is head over heels for you can be done without having to directly ask him. Here’s how to test a guy to see if he really loves you.

  1. Don’t be the first one to initiate a conversation. In the early stages of a relationship, it can be so easy to get into the habit of texting the guy you’re dating first. It’s normal for you to want to know what he’s been up to because you’ve been thinking of him. However, has he been thinking of you? You’ll know you’re in his thoughts if he messages you without you initiating a conversation first. If you’re always on his mind, he’ll text without you having to reach out first. Texting you first doesn’t necessarily conclude whether a guy loves you or not, but it is a sign that he’s really fond of you.
  2. Tell him about the things that are stressing you out. You can tell a lot about a guy’s intentions by the way he handles your emotions. Does he respond with care and sincerity? If yes, that’s a sign he truly cares and loves you. When a man supports you and tries to make you laugh just to take your mind off of a bad situation, he clearly really cares about you. If you want to test a guy’s love for you, be vulnerable and start sharing things that make you feel worried and stressed.
  3. Ask questions to see if he knows you. Asking questions about things you know you’ve discussed with your boyfriend is a great test to see how much he loves you. If a guy really loves you, he’ll want to know everything about you. You have to be a little bit forgiving when testing a guy’s love for you. Especially with expecting him to remember things you know you have told him before. Usually, men don’t usually have great memories when it comes to trivial stuff, so ask your guy questions about you that are personal.
  4. Tell him what your favorite treats are. It seems like a small thing, but this tests whether he’s listening and whether he is thoughtful enough to get you your favorite treats. When a guy shows up with your favorite treats, it shows that he cares and that he really listens to you. Getting your favorite treats can’t be the only test you do to see how much a guy loves you. Because every guy expresses their love in different ways, your guy might not be the gift-giving type.
  5. Invite him to a family event. Inviting the person you are dating to a family event is a big step. If he agrees to go, it’s confirmation that he is serious about you. Inviting a guy to meet all of your family members is a big deal and the guy you’re dating knows that, so for him to agree to go with you means he wants your relationship with him to progress. If he doesn’t want to come that’s a clear sign he’s not ready for the relationship to progress.
  6. Ask hypothetical questions to test how he feels about you. When you’re doing this, you have to be careful. You don’t want to randomly ask him a hypothetical question to test how he feels about you. Watch a movie together and base your questions on the movie, for instance – that way he won’t be too suspicious as to why you’re asking him hypothetical questions. If you get your desired answer, you can be sure that he loves you. If he doesn’t answer the way you hoped he would, take it with a pinch of salt because it’s a hypothetical question and he could be dramatic with his answer.
  7. Encourage him to step outside of his comfort zone for you. Asking someone to do something that makes them feel scared or uncomfortable is a tricky thing to do. So, if you manage to get the guy you are dating to step outside of his comfort zone just because you asked, you can believe he loves you 100%. If a guy is willing to put aside his fears just to impress you or just to keep you happy. That means he’s willing to show up for you despite his own feelings.
Gemma is a travelling holistic chef that loves to spend her time between France and the UK. She has a special interest writing about dating and wellness. In her spare time you'll find her glued to a book or exploring beautiful cities around the world.