These days, it’s hard to find someone who hasn’t ghosted or been ghosted in a relationship. Everyone thinks this is the worst thing about dating these days. Sure, it sucks and is kind of rude and immature, but hear me out — it’s actually helpful to look at it as a positive situation. Here are 9 reasons being ghosted is good for you:
- You get a clear answer. You claim that this guy never told you that he wasn’t into you so you never got closure on your almost relationship or two dates. Um, hello, you got an answer: if he ghosted you, there you go. Sometimes so-called mixed signals aren’t mixed at all. Better to know now than waste any more time on this jerk, right?
- You know he’s not ready. For anything – love, a relationship, or even just a few more dates. It’s liberating to realize this because you can move on and find someone more emotionally mature. You’ve dated enough idiots in the past.
- You might not be all that into him. Whenever things aren’t clicking, it’s usually pretty mutual. You can often tell when someone likes you (this is not a bulletproof theory), so if a guy ghosts you, it might not come as a complete surprise. If it does, then maybe you’re not being totally honest with yourself.
- You’ll get stronger. Of course you hate being ignored, but after a while you won’t even bat an eyelash. Sure, it’s kind of messed up that you have to get used to being ghosted, but these are just the weird, crazy times that we live in. Think how strong you’ll feel when you can weather this time and time again.
- It’s better than the alternative. It can be hurtful to just be dropped without any explanation, but is it really any worse than the alternative? Imagine if he’d stayed and told you he just doesn’t like you all that much. Would that have made you feel any better?
- You’ve been saved tons of heartache. Imagine actually dating someone who can’t even communicate. Every day, every plan, every moment would be pure hell. At least you don’t have to deal with this person anymore.
- You can make up your own mind. Sometimes you think a guy has ghosted you and then a text from him magically appears a week later (true story). By that point, you’ve probably decided you hate him (or just never want to see him ever again, same thing) and can move on gracefully. His faux-ghosting helped you clarify your feelings.
- You do it, too. Admit it, you ghost. You know you do. Don’t be a hypocrite and pretend differently. When you can admit to yourself that you don’t always want to tell a guy that you don’t feel anything for him, you can handle being ghosted a lot better.
- Ghosting isn’t going anywhere anytime soon. Let’s face facts here: ghosting is basically here to stay. So you might as well get used to it and learn to deal. If you’re agreeing to date in 2016, you’re agreeing to taking the chance of being ghosted sometimes.