Am I Ready For A Relationship? 9 Questions To Ask Yourself

A romantic relationship is important for many people. Even though this is something you may want in the future, it doesn’t mean you’re ready for it in the present. After all, a relationship is a big commitment. Asking yourself the following questions can help you to figure out whether you really are ready for love. Check them out!

  1. Are you over your ex? It can take a long time to get over someone, especially if you’re still in love when you break up. But it’s important to be over your ex before getting into a new relationship. Otherwise, it’s not fair to your new partner. You also won’t be the best version of yourself in a new relationship if you’re pining over your ex. This is a sign that you’re still not ready to move on.
  2. Are you independent and self-sufficient? Many people believe they don’t need to be independent or self-sufficient in life because they can find a partner to do all those things for them. Unfortunately, being in a healthy relationship does not mean relying on your partner for everything. If you do enter a new relationship expecting the other person to take care of you, you’re likely to end up disappointed. That’s a huge amount of pressure to put on someone, and most people can’t live up to those expectations. Besides, it’s important to be able to look after yourself—even in happy relationships, your partner won’t always be there.
  3. Do you know what you’re looking for? To be fair, most people feel like they don’t know what they’re looking for. You don’t have to have it all figured out to be in a relationship. But you should have an idea about the basics. Are you looking for something long-term or short-term? Is marriage important to you? Do you have strong feelings about children? You should know where you’d like to go before getting involved with someone who might not be up for the ride.
  4. Do you need someone else to make you happy? One of the most common reasons that people seek out relationships is loneliness or unhappiness. They feel incomplete on their own and want someone else to make them happy. Unfortunately, no one else can ever make you happy. They can enhance your life and bring you happy moments. But if you’re not happy within yourself, a relationship won’t fix that—at least, not for the long-term. Anyway, do you really want to give someone else that kind of power over you?
  5. Do you understand the importance of communication? Communication is one of the most important elements of being in a relationship. If you don’t understand the importance of it, any relationship you begin might be doomed to fail. Skill in communication may take practice. But at the very least, you should understand the importance of it and be willing to embrace it.
  6. Are you ready to compromise? Healthy relationships involve compromise. When you’re intertwining your life so closely with someone else’s, things can’t always go your way. Relationships should be equal, which means both people should be adaptable and able to accommodate each other. If you’re set in your ways and won’t budge an inch on anything, you may not be ready for a real relationship.
  7. Do you feel pressure to be in a relationship? There are many good reasons to start a new relationship. Outside pressure is not one of them. You’re not alone if you feel the pressure coming from all around you. When all your friends are married, your parents are bugging you to settle down, and every movie you watch ends with a happy couple in love, it’s easy to feel like you need a relationship. But if you don’t actually want one—and not everyone does—giving in to this pressure isn’t a good idea. You may just end up resenting your partner.
  8. Are you still expecting perfection? Before you start a new relationship, you should let go of your desire for perfection. Sadly, it’s never going to happen. No matter who you end up with, they’ll have things about them that you don’t like. So you won’t be able to find a real relationship if you’re looking for a perfect one. Instead of searching for someone who has no flaws, search for someone you like so much that their flaws don’t bother you.
  9. Are you over casual dating? Casual dating can be brutal. But it’s an itch that many people need to scratch. If you’re not overplaying the field and the excitement of the dating world, you’re not ready for a relationship. If you give in to pressure and try to settle down before you’re ready, the itch may become unbearable. You’ll know you’re ready for the next step when the thought of dating no longer entices you.
Vanessa Locampo is an Aussie writer who’s equally obsessed with YA fiction and pasta. Her time is divided between writing all the things, reading all the things, listening to Queen, and bopping her cat on the nose. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing and has written for sites including and Discovering Montana, and currently works as an editor at Glam. You can keep up with her on Instagram @vanessaellewrites.