Are You A Powerful Woman? 12 Things That Make You A Total Badass

Everyone seems to have different opinions on what truly makes a woman powerful. In reality, it’s actions and not words that prove how strong a person truly is. If you can relate to these things, you’re truly a force to be reckoned with:

  1. You have quiet strength. It’s not always easy to be strong, especially when life wrecks your plans or throws you a surprising curve ball. But you know how to find your inner strength to get you through, and at its most powerful, it’s a gentle form of courage. It isn’t the loud, proud or noisy kind that’s just hot air. It’s the voice that motivates you to get up, dust yourself off, and keep going.
  2. You throw criticism off your shoulders. You’re open to good criticism that offers you feedback, but the malicious kind is what you don’t have time for. You believe that what you concentrate on is what grows in your life, and you’d rather direct your attention to something more positive. But what really makes you so powerful is that you ignore the negative comments instead of letting them provide motivation for an angry Facebook rant, as so many attention-seekers tend to do.
  3. You ask for help when you need it. You’re independent and strong, but you know you can’t always make it on your own, and that’s okay. Being truly powerful means knowing when to reach out to other powerful people so you can achieve great things.
  4. You can be guarded, but not jaded. Your experiences in the dating game have made you a bit guarded but that’s not the same thing as being bitter. You just know what you won’t settle for and how to protect your heart. It doesn’t make you a man-hater or someone so cynical that you shut the door to love.
  5. You draw people to you. You don’t need to chase anyone. You have a light inside you that seems to pull people to you, so you know you don’t have to try to get their attention or beg for their affection. This light comes from the knowledge that you are worthy of love and care.
  6. You walk away when you know you deserve better. A woman who claims to be powerful might want to stick around in a negative relationship in the hope of turning it around. But that’s not strength at all. As a powerful woman, you know when to stop and walk away. It’s not always easy, but it’s way more possible when you value yourself and won’t put yourself through any more suffering.
  7. You aren’t afraid to be alone. Sometimes it sucks to be alone, and you’re the first to admit it, but you know that if you have to be alone, you can make it because you can take care of yourself. You’d rather be alone than settle for an unhappy relationship or succumb to dating pressures that cause you to find someone, anyone, in order to be worthy. As a powerful woman, you know you’re worthy as you stand right now.
  8. You show your feelings. Enough with hiding what you feel. You’re powerful because you know part of your strength lies in your emotions and the expression of who you are, insecurities and all. Contrary to popular opinion, hiding your feelings isn’t powerful. It actually makes you come across as insecure.
  9. You are not focused on what a man needs. Motivational quotes on the internet might make you believe that you have to be the type of woman a man needs instead of the type of woman that needs a man, but honestly, these are both BS. You don’t need a man and you’re about so much more than trying to be the type of woman that draws a man to her. The only woman you have to be is the one YOU need.
  10. Your power speaks for itself. People who spend time with you can feel that you’re strong-minded and see that you make things happen in your life. Your actions speak for themselves. You don’t need to go around talking about how powerful you are or sharing social media updates about how successful you are. That’s just looking for attention and self-worth outside of yourself.
  11. You love yourself. You value yourself and have high standards that matter more than any man. This is what makes you such a force to be reckoned with in the dating game.
  12. You go after what you wantYou’re not the type of woman to sit back and watch life pass you by. You jump into the game and chase down your dreams, even if they lead to failure. You don’t let negativity stand in your way, and you certainly don’t allow people who are intimidated by you to stop you. You’re too big for that.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.