You’re A Strong, Badass Woman, So Why Do You Keep Attracting So Many Weak Men?

We’re incredibly strong, smart, and independent — in other words, we’re a total catch. We’d think this would attract guys who are on our level, but in fact, it seems to be the complete opposite. In fact, we only seem to meet the weakest men. What gives?

  1. Opposites attract. I suppose people are attracted to what they aren’t, or at least what they aspire to be. We find ourselves falling into the trap of accepting the attention of weak men because they are very complimentary and appreciative of our strength. Everyone likes to be admired, right? Weak men like badass women because we have all the power they aspire to gain. Badass women like weak men because they give us admiration and adulation and cater to our wishes.
  2. They’re looking for replacement mothers. This is the icky side of things. Weak men want a mother figure, someone who will tell them what to do and where to be and how to live. They love this mindless existence. I suppose it’s much the way it goes with weak women and their daddy figures. It’s dysfunctional and, in my opinion, a weird and creepy relationship dynamic.
  3. Weak men like being intimidated by their partners. It allows them to maintain their secondary position and refuse to take responsibility for anything. We always end up with these passive sorts of guys and it’s fun at first that they’re so accommodating. Then it gets annoying because honestly, who wants to be with someone who keeps telling you that you intimidate them? How can we respect that person?
  4. They think they can rely on us. We, as badass bitches, handle our crap. This makes us shiny, pretty targets for men who don’t want to handle anything! Sorry, dude, we’re not going to do your laundry or balance your bank account. Even worse, a lot of them can handle that crap but not their emotional baggage. It’s not our job to do any of that for him. Ain’t happening.
  5. They need full-time therapists. Speaking of which… yeah, the emotional baggage can get weird. These weak men often don’t talk to anyone about their inner problems. We always fall into the trap of feeling flattered that they want to share their deepest darkest secrets with us. Before we know it, we’re their only outlet for their emotions and we have this weirdly unhealthy and unbalanced relationship. They trust us, and then we get annoyed with them for unloading on us constantly.
  6. They’re drawn to our ambition and success. Just like some women look to sugar daddies for stability and comfort, these weakling men look to strong women who they hope can guide their lives. We’re not here to take care of men, we’re here to stand alongside strong men. Still, time and time again, we get caught up with a man who isn’t on our level. To be fair, sometimes they’re masquerading as strong and confident men on the outside!
  7. We aren’t worried about chasing them. Ah, as a busy and motivated woman who could care less about finding a man, we’re the ultimate chase. It intrigues all men when a woman doesn’t want to be wooed, but even more so the subordinate type. He’s interested in figuring out how to make us chase him even when we aren’t planning on it. Somehow we find ourselves making moves on passive men that we usually wouldn’t even give a second look. How do they do it? It’s some kind of crazy mind game and it works.
  8. They are just fine with letting us take the reins. We like being in charge, at least in the beginning. We’re generally in charge of our own lives anyway, so why not with a man? That thrill wears off quickly, when we ask him to make a decision, any decision, and he simply can’t. Ugh. We want to be pursued, but we get impatient so we do all the work in the beginning. This leads to an undesirable pattern where he lets us take the lead in all things.
  9. We aren’t afraid to let them know we’re interested. This is a passive man’s wet dream. He doesn’t like doing any work, and now he doesn’t have to do it! Even if we don’t actively chase a guy, because we do hate doing that, we’ll make it clear that we’re interested in him pursuing us. If he still won’t take the bait, his loss. If we’re feeling particularly desperate and lonely, we’ll basically make him ask us out. We hate to admit that it doesn’t count as him taking the initiative if we give him all the groundwork to get there.
  10. We’re the ultimate prize. When a man gets with a badass woman like us, he’s won. Plain and simple. If that man is not even close to being on our personal or professional level, he’s won tenfold. He figures that as long as he keeps us relatively happy, he can lie back and rest on his laurels. His work is done. He doesn’t have to wait anymore for any other woman to come along and put up with his crap. It’s all taken care of because of my fool ass. Well, sorry bro, we’re not doing this anymore. Weak men may love badass women, but we need to hold out for equally badass man.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She hopes that they resonate with you or at the very least make you chuckle a bit. She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and The Indie Chicks.