My Best Friend Is Getting Married — Now What?

My Best Friend Is Getting Married — Now What? ©iStock//prostooleh

Three weeks ago, my best friend since middle school got engaged. She’s been with her now-fiance for eight years I knew it was only a matter of time before he popped the question. But while we knew it was coming sooner rather than later, I was still in complete shock when she called me the night it happened. As much as we want the best for our girls, it’s still a crazy realization that your BFF is going to be dress shopping, cake tasting and writing up wedding vows. Here’s a list of advice I have received in these short few weeks of what to do now that my bestie is a soon to be a Mrs.:

  1. Start saving now. My BFF has already told me that I’m going to be in her wedding. We got together for brunch the other day, and while her wedding is a year and a half away, she was talking about the dress colors she was thinking for us. Being in a wedding comes with a lot of money responsibilities, from the dress, to the gift, to the wedding shower. Putting extra cash aside is always smart because no one wants to be the bridesmaid that can’t go to Cape Cod for your girl’s bachelorette weekend.
  2. Stalk her Pinterest wedding board. While Pinterest sometimes gives us unrealistic ideas of our dream wedding, you still should scope out her page to see what she is liking and envisioning. Being on the same page as your friend could be her saving grace when she’s feeling overwhelmed.
  3. Start a workout routine (if you don’t already have one). I’m already on a workout regimen in preparation for this wedding. She told us that there will be 300+ invitations going out, and I want to be in tip-top shape when I walk down that aisle and stand next to my beautiful best friend!
  4. Be supportive, but keep her in check. While all girls dread becoming the Bridezilla, mini meltdowns are inevitable, especially when it comes to a girl with big dreams. Support her feelings, but also keep her in check. Luckily I’m comfortable enough with my friend to tell her when she’s being a complete psychopath.  Make sure she knows you’re in her corner, but that you’ll also be that slap in the face when she’s losing her marbles.
  5. Stop the wedding talk at a certain point. There will come a time where she’ll need a break (as will you) and just want to gossip over a glass (or bottle) of wine. Be the person she can turn to and when she’s avoiding wedding talk, and don’t bring it up.
  6. Make time to get to know the groomsmen. These are the people you’ll be making up ridiculous dances with to walk into at the reception. Make time to get to know them! If your friend tries to put together a meet and greet for the wedding party, GO. It’ll mean the world to her.
  7. Keep her calm and confident. It’s HER day. Tell her she looks amazing and tell her everything’s going to go smoothly. You’re not lying — you’re just giving her a reminder.
  8. Have fun at the wedding. She put in all of this time stressing and planning to make this day perfect. Be the first one on the dance floor with her. No one likes a wedding guest who just sits at her table all night. Be the life of the party and CELEBRATE the best day of your best friend’s life!
Shelby is a New England girl who loves mimosas, edamame, new bras, and her Yorkie, Jack.