“Breezing” Is The New Dating Trend We Should ALL Be Following

Dating trends can be messy and complicated, not to mention hurtful. Sometimes the “tips” and “tricks” you follow can end up being a disaster, making you put in too much effort for something that shouldn’t be so damn hard. Luckily, now “breezing” is here and it’s set to change everything. Here’s what it is and why it’s worth a shot:

  1. What’s “breezing”? “Breezing” is a simple dating trend that focuses on not caring. No, really. It’s about being carefree, confident within yourself, and not worrying too much about what you’re supposed to be doing and what he’s thinking.
  2. It’s about being real. It’s easy to fall in step with the dating rules, like not texting a guy you like right away out of fear that he’ll think you’re too clingy. Breezing changes that. It suggests you should text him right away if you feel like it (gulp). Basically, do what YOU want instead of thinking about him.
  3. It can make him wonder what’s going on. Funnily enough, breezing can actually throw the guy off, even though it’s not your intention to play games. For instance, if he hasn’t called when he said he would and he’s expecting you to be pissed but you’re too breezy and carefree to be — you’re laughing at his joke on social media and looking like you don’t give a damn. He’s bound to wonder what’s going on with you. Nothing’s going on! You’re cool!
  4. It’s about living in the moment. Too much focus is placed on the future when you date someone: when you’ll hit milestones, when he’ll make things official, when you’ll be sure he’s into you, and so on. It’s exhausting. Breezing is about living in the moment. You do what you feel like doing and follow your heart. You call him even if your friend says you shouldn’t. You meet up with him just because you feel like it. You’re led by nothing but your impulses.
  5. You say what you feel. Instead of hiding your feelings so you don’t come across as crazy/bitchy/clingy, you’re upfront about them without playing hard to get. But that’s what’s so cool about it: instead of making your feelings “a big deal” because you’re worried how you’ll be judged by them, you’re just letting them out because you don’t care if you’re judged.
  6. It’s about forgetting the rules. Breezing basically says, “This is who I am, so screw the dating rules.” You leave the date and get on with your life instead of thinking you should’ve done X, Y, and Z to make him like you. It’s about doing what feels right for you, not what society or dating experts think is right.
  7. It’s about not letting your negative feelings get the better of you. If a guy upsets you, you don’t invest in him and how much he hurt you. You express what you feel (if you feel like it) but you move on. You don’t sit there analyzing his words or texts with your friends. You move the hell on.
  8. You don’t let little things get to you. Yes, you can be in tune with your emotions, but you also don’t let the little things bum you out. In this way, breezing is similar to the book “Why Men Like Bitches” (note if you haven’t read the book: “bitches” doesn’t refer to being bitchy, but being independent and self-confident). The similarity is that it’s about not taking little things to heart. Say you’re out with the guy you’re dating and he mentions other women or he checks out another woman. Instead of getting upset and angry, you check your watch and yawn at him to show him to get over himself. You don’t let the players get you down.
  9. You have way less stress. We could all do with less stress in our love lives, right? Breezing cuts out a lot of the BS and allows you to be more comfortable in your skin without compromising yourself for dates and boyfriends. Think of all the amazing things you could do with the time that would go to beating yourself up for not being the way you think you’re supposed to be.
  10. It gives you perspective. Breezing helps you to realize that no matter what happens, sometimes things will not work out with the guy you’re dating. It reminds you that you shouldn’t live according to the dating rules and trends so much because they fail. We’re people, not robots, and dating is unpredictable. Either way, you know that you’ll be fine with or without the new guy you’re seeing.
  11. It reminds you that guys can see right through the games. When you play relationship games, you risk the guy seeing right through them, like when he’s been taking ages to reply to your texts so you give him the same treatment. Often, people will know what you’re doing and it makes you come across as childish instead of confident and carefree. Breezing allows you to be carefree for real because you’re not taking his crappy behavior to heart or engaging with him about it because you know you’re so much better than that.
  12. Amazing things can happen when you leave the rulebook at home. Sometimes doing all the things you were warned about when dating someone can be just what you need to get the right guy, feel comfortable, and find an amazing relationship. So go on and try “breezing” — dating might just be all the better for it.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.