Complaining About Being Single Is Unhealthy — It’s Time to Change It

If the one rule of Fight Club is that you don’t talk about Fight Club, the same goes for being single. You’re just not supposed to complain about your relationship status (or lack of one). It’s an insult to everyone else who’s just trying to find love in this crazy world and makes you seem desperate. Not only that, but it doesn’t actually help you find a boyfriend, so knock it off.

  1. Being single doesn’t suck. Let’s just get this out of the way first. The single life is full of fun, hard work and total freedom. You watch what you want and you don’t fight with anyone. If you’re not loving being single, you’re doing it wrong.
  2. You sound bitter. It’s not cute, it’s just lame. No one’s going to want to listen to you anymore and you’ll basically have no friends left at the end of it. Oh, and good luck trying to find a date.
  3. You’re being annoying. Think about the so-called “nice guys” who claim they’re treated badly and misunderstood. You hate them, don’t you? If you aren’t careful, you’re going to turn into the female version, so keep your head up and stop whining.
  4. You’re still young. Whether you’re in your 20s or 30s, you’re still super young and you have so much time left. You don’t need to complain that you’re still single because there’s no rule that at a certain age you’re not allowed to find love anymore (can you imagine?).
  5. You’re not alone. Sure, if you were the last single woman on the planet, you would have a right to hate it. But you’re not special and there are tons of single women out there who are enjoying their lives and killing their careers. Why aren’t you, too?
  6. Optimism is attractive. Do you want to date a super negative person who whines about everything from their subway commute to their boss to the waiter? Probably not. So why would someone want to date you if you whine about your solo status?
  7. There are worse things. So you don’t have a plus one for weddings, so what? If that’s the most terrible thing that has ever happened to you, then you live a pretty charmed life. Seriously.
  8. Talk is cheap. If you want a boyfriend, well, what are you doing about it? Don’t just sit there and talk about how much you want someone. Go online or go to a bar. Ask a guy out or flirt so much he should get the picture. Going after what you want means actually taking action.
  9. Desperation gets you nowhere. If you hate being single so much that you’re dying for a boyfriend, you’re the definition of desperate, and you’re not going to win. Guys can smell desperation from a mile away.
  10. You’re better than this. You’re strong, smart, funny, friendly, and about a million other things. You’re not the miserable girl sitting in the corner at a party, refusing to talk to anyone because she didn’t bring a guy. You’re better than that. So stop complaining and keep living your life. That’s really the only way to land a boyfriend.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.