You Deserve A Guy Who Eases Your Stress, Not Causes It

Relationships are supposed to make your life even better than it already is, so why do so many of us stay with guys who make our lives worse? Just remember—the right man will relieve your stress, not be the cause of it.

  1. He won’t make you second guess his feelings or your own. The right guy will not only tell you how he feels, but he’ll have the actions to back it up. You won’t have to be stressed out worrying if the guy you’re with really loves you. You’ll know he loves you and he’ll know it too, which makes it even easier to love him in return. Your feelings will be mutual and you won’t have to question if you’re right for each other—you’ll know you are.
  2. He won’t make your relationship full of drama. When you’re in a mature relationship, there’s no place for drama. He’ll treat you with respect and love without you having to ask. He won’t ignore your calls or play you hot and cold. He won’t flirt with other girls right in front of you just so he can get a rise out of you. He won’t play mind games because he won’t give you one more reason to feel stressed. He’ll be your relief, not your cause for concern.
  3. He won’t be afraid to earn your trust and keep it. Building trust in a relationship takes time and the right guy will know how to be patient. Even better, he won’t risk your relationship by giving you a reason not to trust him. He won’t have you stressed out worrying about where he is or who he’s with and he’ll never drive you to the extremes of snooping. The right guy will be a guy you can trust completely.
  4. He’ll help take the extra weight off your shoulders. A good man helps out where he can. You should feel comfortable enough to share your stress levels with your partner and when you do, the right man will do whatever he can to help ease your mind. Being in a relationship is about sharing your life with someone else. That means sharing the good and the bad. He’ll be the person you can lean on either way.
  5. He’ll actually care about your happiness. Your happiness shouldn’t come second to your partner’s. If you’re with someone who sacrifices your happiness for his own then that selfish love will only ever stress you out. You’ll start to feel like his happiness is more important to you too and then eventually you’ll realize that your happiness depends completely on him because you just don’t matter anymore. The right man would never let you feel so meaningless because, at the end of the day, your happiness should mean just as much to him as it does to you.
  6. He’ll make you a priority. Do you feel like you’re important to him? Do you think he makes time and puts an effort into your relationship, or do you feel more like a burden in his life as if you’re just another plate added to the stack? The right guy won’t stress you out by making you feel as if you don’t really matter. Being a priority to someone else helps you feel good about yourself but feeling like someone just doesn’t give AF will make you more stressed than ever.
  7. He’ll make you feel safe and secure. You shouldn’t be with someone who only ever makes you worry. Will he break up with you tomorrow? Could the next fight be your last? Your mind shouldn’t be plagued with that kind of stress all over someone who’s supposed to love you. If you don’t feel safe and secure in the arms of your boyfriend, then he’s not the right guy for you.
  8. He’ll love you for exactly who you are. Change yourself for a guy? Don’t even think about it. You’re amazing just the way you are and the right guy will be able to see that. He won’t make you feel stressed to be the perfect girl for him because you’re already perfect for him as-is. He’ll make you feel like a completed project, not like a rough draft that you need to finish.
  9. He’ll never intentionally hurt you. A lot of relationships are filled with betrayal, but that’s a clear sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. The right man would never make a choice that he knows is going to hurt you. In fact, his worst fear is hurting you or letting you down. All he wants to do is make your life better because his life is better purely because he’s with you.
  10. He’ll pick you up when you’re down. The right guy is going to actually be there when you need him. He won’t stress you out by disappearing every time something goes wrong in your life. Instead, he’ll stand by your side. He’ll be a true partner and every time you fall he’ll be there to catch you and help you get right back up on your feet. No stress, just love, and that’s exactly how it should be.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.