I used to think that there were a lot of good men in the world. Then I got older and my experiences jaded me. If that wasn’t bad enough, a lot of my friends have gotten screwed over too. That’s why I don’t know if I believe there’s such a thing as a truly good dude anymore.
- I don’t trust them. I’d like to trust men but I don’t, no matter how hard I try. I feel like as soon as I trust anyone, I’m extremely vulnerable to getting hurt. Every time I’ve gone there I’ve gotten hurt so I don’t want to do it anymore. I want to be more trusting but life has made me suspicious and anxious. I don’t want to get burned yet again.
- I don’t think they’re capable of emotional maturity. Even the best guys I know don’t seem very emotionally mature. They certainly aren’t very *mentally* mature. Are there any men out there who aren’t just little boys at heart? It kinda weirds me out. I don’t feel like women are this way at all so I don’t get where it comes from. I just want a man who can match me in maturity and that’s been impossible to find.
- I think they’ll do whatever they can get away with. I know it sounds cynical but that’s the way I feel. I think that if he knew he wouldn’t get caught, any man would cheat. I don’t think there’s a guy out there who wouldn’t give in to temptation. It makes me sad to even admit that I feel that way but it’s true.
- I’ve seen too much shady behavior to trust anyone. How can I believe men when I’ve seen so many of them lie firsthand? There are a lot of posers out there. They act like their girlfriends are their world and all the while they’re messing around behind their backs. The girls have no idea—I feel sorry for them and I’m terrified of becoming them. I’ve seen way too much BS to believe men are good.
- I get burned every time I give them the benefit of the doubt. It’s like they know and they have some perverse desire to ruin everything. I don’t get it. I hold out and I stay guarded and then I finally let them in… and they toss my feelings aside like garbage.
- I find out that every guy who seems great… isn’t. Everyone has flaws, but I think that everyone should also at least try their hardest to be good people. I do. I can’t even count how many men I’ve met who seem decent at first and turn out to be horrible. I’ve seen my friends go through nightmares with supposed “good guys.” I simply don’t believe in it anymore.
- I don’t think I’m asking for all that much. I just want an honest man who doesn’t cheat on me and doesn’t lie to me. It seems like that should be a bare minimum requirement and yet I can’t find it. Even if they seem genuine, they end up hiding things from me or lying to avoid conflict. That’s no way to have a relationship. It’s depressing.
- I can’t make myself believe a guy is great even when he does nothing to make me feel otherwise. At this point I’m just eternally waiting for the other shoe to drop. It’s impossible to have a good relationship without trust and I can’t bring myself to trust any guy. That’s why I’m not dating, but I don’t know when or if it’ll change and that sucks.
- I expect the worst of every man at this point. I don’t like feeling this way. I want to believe that I will find a great man who wants to be with me and who I can trust. I just see so much evidence to the contrary and experience so much crap that it’s hard to keep any faith. I wish I could say otherwise, but I witness men behaving like jerks on a daily basis.
- I’m eternally getting disappointed by guys. I must be terrible at picking men, because they never live up to my expectations. I don’t even expect that much! I just want a decent human being who treats me with respect and consideration, but I end up with selfish men who talk a good game and don’t follow up. I don’t understand why this keeps happening unless all guys just suck.
- I’ve literally given up on dating because I don’t trust anyone. I don’t see what the point of dating is if I know I can’t go past a certain point of commitment with anyone. It would take a damn lot of effort at this point from any guy who wants to be with me, because I have such a difficult time trusting. It’s the discouraging truth.
- I think even if I find a great man, I won’t believe it’s possible. I’m so freaking jaded at this point, I’m not sure I’ll trust myself to recognize whether a man is good. I worry that I’ll let my feelings cloud my judgment and end up hurt yet again. I’m so tired of the games and the dishonesty and the drama. I want something simple and good and joyful, and I’m scared of never getting it.
