Why Every Woman Needs A Bitchy BFF—Hear Me Out

Remember when “bitch” was considered a bad word? Now women are rightfully owning it because part of being a bitch means that you’re not afraid to speak out, take risks, and work hard to get ahead. Having a bitchy BFF is amazing for a ton of reasons, especially these.

  1. She’ll always be brutally honest with you. Honesty is important, and it’s the only way you’re going to get ahead. Seriously, a bitchy BFF will tell it to you straight. Think about how many awkward situations you’re in right at this moment because you’re afraid to step on anyone’s toes. Taking people’s feelings into consideration is very important, yes, but it’s also important to tell others how you feel. Your BFF will let you know that standing her up for the movies pissed her off even if it leads to a fight. Being honest is worth the risk.
  2. She won’t be afraid to say what everyone else is thinking. She’s not afraid to vocalize her thoughts even if they’re a little negative. If someone’s being rude to her, she’ll openly ask them why. It’s important to know that someone who demands answers and won’t back down from a confrontation. Your BFF will be proof that you should never be scared to start up conversations and ask for more.
  3. She’ll pump you up for that promotion. Speaking of, she’s probably a firecracker at work and inspires you to be the same way. She doesn’t sit on the sidelines, she demands to be in every meeting that may involve her and she needs to be in the know. This is a survival tactic that everyone should learn as it’s more difficult to feel nervous and uncertain about where you stand in the workplace if you know a lot about what’s happening in the company.
  4. She’s a natural born leader. Ever since you’ve known her, she’s been the president of some organization, if not the founder as well. Having a bitchy BFF proves that women are able to take charge and pave the way—and seriously, in doing so, she’s further reclaiming the word and renovating it to describe a self-assured, strong woman.
  5. Her self-confidence is insane. There’s a level of bitchy that means she’s catty towards other women and another level that shows she’s not down for anyone’s drama. Your BFF is in the latter category. She doesn’t openly put people down and she doesn’t allow herself to be the target. She’s got too much going on to start petty fights about things and thinks a little less of people who do.
  6. She’ll be able to convince you to dump that guy. If you’re in a not-so-great relationship but have issues with ending it, she’ll be the source of strength you need. Your BFF is likely the girl who dumped a boyfriend after not proposing for three years—she’s not going to sit and wait around for situations to magically change. She’ll remind you that you’re worth more than days of blah dates. Being single again can be tricky, but at least she’ll be by your side and possibly serve as your future wing woman.
  7. She’s unapologetic about who she is. She knows she can sometimes be a little rough around the edges but quite frankly, she’s fine with that. Everybody has a different personality and she’s not ashamed to admit that hers may clash with other people’s. It’s kind of refreshing to meet someone who’s self-aware and not trying to change in order to meet the approval of someone else. Really, everyone should follow in her footsteps.
  8. She’ll push you to be the best version of yourself. When you have a bitchy BFF, she won’t let you sit in your house and sulk after a breakup. She’ll make sure you’re out there and looking fabulous. She’s used to taking control of situations like this so she’ll absolutely feel at home with pumping your confidence back up and making you truly believe it wasn’t you but him. She’ll also be quick to tell you if your diet has been slacking or if you should hit the gym for your mental health—and she’ll probably offer to accompany you too.
  9. She’s not threatened by authority. Not saying she’d be willing to steal from a retail store with you (since bitchy doesn’t mean criminal) but she’s not afraid to talk to a cop like she would any other human. She also isn’t afraid to point out errors to the higher-ups. The phrase “know your place” doesn’t really apply to her, which oddly makes you feel really safe in her presence. Otherwise, you may be living in a shell.
Karen Belz is a New Jersey native who is currently living in Maryland. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Speech Communication with a focus in Broadcasting and Print Media Studies from Millersville University of Pennsylvania. Since graduating, she has written for sites like LittleThings, HelloGiggles, and Scary Mommy and is currently an e-commerce editor at Bustle.

When she's not writing, she enjoys making her phone run out of memory after taking too many photos of her dog. You can find her on Twitter @karenebelz or on Instagram @karenbelz.