Feeling Stuck? Here’s How To Take Control Of Your Life

Feeling Stuck? Here’s How To Take Control Of Your Life ©iStock/SHipskyy

Ever feel like everyone around you is moving so fast and you’re stuck standing still? If you do, believe me, you’re not alone. However, no matter how crazy life gets, at the end of it all, YOU control your destiny. Here are some things to focus on and remember when life feels out of control:

  1. You Pick The People You Surround Yourself With — Choose Wisely. The friends you make throughout your lifetime will dictate your overall happiness in life. You choose the company you keep, which means you decide who has an influence in your life. In with the positive, out with the negative. Simple as that.
  2. Ultimately, You Know What You Need In Order To Truly Be Happy. Go get it. You’re a highly complex person who desires far more than what the world has to offer. However, you have to make do with what you have and exercise control over the aspects of life you do have a hand in. Pursue the things that will make you feel fulfilled and don’t give up on them.
  3. No One Knows You Better Than You. Don’t forget that. This may sound glaringly obvious, but what many women forget when they’re struggling to make life decisions is that YOU hold the key to your well-being. You have to self-reflect and identify what truly makes you joyful if you ever want to feel like you belong. It may take some time, but figuring out what makes you want to wake up in the morning will guide you to your end goal, which is unlimited bliss.
  4. Your Past Has Shaped You Into The Person You Are Today. Be grateful. Your past experiences hold the secret to your eternal happiness. Humans learn from making mistakes and constantly striving to not repeat those mistakes. Control over your life starts with analyzing your past blunders and working hard to fix those errors before they happen again.
  5. At The End Of The Day, YOU Have The Final Say. Speak up. If you feel like your world is crashing around you, recognize that anytime you want to stop doing something, all you have to do is say the word. Sure, dropping out of school and quitting your job spontaneously may not be viewed as the “smartest” moves, but if that’s what you need in order to be content with your life, then have at it. It’s your life, after all. You make the rules, not your mom, dad, sibling, boyfriend, best friend or superiors.
  6. You’re A Grown Woman With Unique Wants And Needs That Only You Can Fulfill. Don’t stay unsatisfied. Satisfying any woman is a chore, and that rings true on the individual level as well. We may be difficult to appease, but that’s only because we know what we deserve.
  7. Your Wisdom Will Guide You To A Path That Leads To Inner Peace. Trust yourself. The wiser you are, the more likely you’ll be to have a tight grasp on your life’s occurrences because you know what it’s like to be manipulated out of your own happiness. As women, we have to stand strong when we want something because more often than not, we’re overlooked. However, the stronger and wiser we are, the easier it is to convince others that we know what we’re doing and that we have no plans on passing the reins to anyone else.
  8. Everyone Else Has Their Own Lives To Worry About. Remind yourself of this daily. Sure, people are going to come into your life and are going to try to tell you how to live your life, but at the end of the day, they’re far more concerned about their lives than yours. Remind yourself of this the next time someone tries to change your course of action. A lot of the times, people are just bored. They gravitate towards people who don’t seem set in their plans. Don’t let them to that to you; be firm.
Bolde has been a source of dating and relationship advice for single women around the world since 2014. We combine scientific data, experiential wisdom, and personal anecdotes to provide help and encouragement to those frustrated by the journey to find love. Follow us on Instagram @bolde_media or on Facebook @BoldeMedia