Foreplay Is My Favorite Part Of Sex — Here’s Why It Should Be Yours Too

Foreplay encompasses everything that I love about sex. It’s flowing, sensual, playful, free and open-ended — plus, it makes you feel super hot and desired. Sure, there’s something to be said for the rough, passionate sex that comes after, but the more you build up to it, the more pleasure you’ll experience later — trust me. Here are all the reasons why foreplay is IT:

  1. It gets you out of your head. If there is any sort of stress in my life, a good foreplay sesh can completely cancel that out. Let’s put it this way — it’s kind of hard to think about whether or not I fed my cat when someone is sucking on my neck. Foreplay helps me let go and if I wasn’t already in the mood, I soon will be.
  2. It makes you super wet. Nothing is worse than getting rammed in the vag with no lubrication. Some guys seem to think a couple of kisses and a stroke down the back is enough to get you dripping with anticipation, but alas, it isn’t so. Being wet equals being ready. Let this be known to every teen boy looking to get good in the sack. She MUST be wet before entering. Did you hear me? You’ve been warned.
  3. It bonds you to your partner. Foreplay has this magical ability to make you feel incredibly close to the person you’re sharing it with, especially since everything you do during foreplay tends to be slow and deliberate rather than done blindly in a flurry of hormone-induced lust. Getting naked equals getting vulnerable and there’s nothing that will bond two people faster than getting real with each other between the sheets.
  4. It’s never boring. I’m just saying, thrusting can become yawn-inducing. During foreplay, though, it seems like anything is possible. You can lick, kiss, nibble, bite, squeeze, smack — anything that comes to mind. It’s a lot less restrictive than being stuck in missionary for hours.
  5. It makes you actually want sex. Sometimes I feel like I’m just letting my partner have sex with me. When foreplay is involved, I have no choice BUT to have sex. After a good half-hour of foreplay, I’m practically begging for it at this point. See how that works? It’s a win-win for everyone.
  6. It’s a chance to experiment. Foreplay is the perfect time to test the waters and practice your sexy skills. Almost ANYTHING is on the table. Why not break out some massage techniques or that trick with your tongue you learned from the internet? Foreplay can be a goldmine for discovering new ways to please your partner and yourself.
  7. It inspires honest communication. When I’m in the midst of foreplay, I feel like I can tell my partner anything. Not only do I feel sexually free, but I feel emotionally free as well. I don’t mean to get all mushy on you, but when you take the time to really “see” each other, it puts your communication on a whole new level, and yes — mushy things will be said.
  8. It makes you feel confident. Correct me if I’m wrong, but nothing will make you feel more like a queen than getting straight up worshipped. When your partner is kissing your body from head to toe, you can’t help but feel like a million bucks. Being admired just feels so damn good, doesn’t it?
  9. It makes your orgasm more intense. Foreplay relaxes your entire body which in turn gives you a way easier time coming to orgasm. This is why sex is so much better with someone you know and trust. When your walls are down and you’re totally relaxed, you come so hard. YES.
  10. It keeps the chase alive. There comes a point in every relationship when the sex gets a little, how do I say it… stale. Let’s be real, you’re probably pooping in front of each other at this point. Little do you know — you’re killing the chase. Foreplay is like a low-grade game of cat and mouse. It’s your chance to tease, be playful and maybe set some limits on what your partner can and cannot touch. How exciting…
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

You can see more of her work on her Contently page and follow her on Instagram @jenniferenchin.