Things didn’t work out for us once already. You seriously screwed up and I respected myself enough to walk away from you. Now you want another chance. You swear you’ve changed, that things will be different this time, that you realize how wrong you were the first time around. Maybe we deserve another shot — but if I give you one, don’t mess it up.
- You’ve already wasted enough of my time. The time we were together before meant nothing to you — if it did, you wouldn’t have screwed up so badly. Maybe you’ve actually realized where you messed up, but I’m ready for Mr. Right. Are you ready to be that guy? If you can’t, then at least have the decency not to waste any more of my time.
- If you’re not serious about me, just let me go. I don’t want casual. What I want is a relationship that’s actually going somewhere. I want a man that sees a future with me. I’m not giving a second chance to a guy who’s not ready to settle down and be a real boyfriend. If you can’t do that, we don’t need to bother trying again.
- I deserve to be happy. If you love, like, or simply care about me as a human being, then you should want me to be happy — so please don’t put me through hell again. If you know you can’t make me happy (or don’t want to try), then I’ll find a guy who can. Anything else is just selfish.
- Even though you hurt me, I still think we have potential. I don’t have to give you a second chance. The ball is in my court here. You fooled me once, shame on you — but if you fool me twice, shame on me. Don’t let me be a fool. I want to try again because I believe we could still be something. Please don’t make me regret that.
- Your actions have consequences. Even though I’m open to trying again, that doesn’t mean we’re starting with a clean slate. I need you to prove to me that things are different this time, that you’re sorry for how much you hurt me. I need to know that you learned your lesson and that you’ll do what it takes to gain my trust again. Otherwise, how can I be sure you won’t hurt me all over again?
- If you care about me at all, you’ll never hurt me again. You hurt me once, and that’s more than enough. I know things happen and that there’s still a chance that things won’t work out in the end, and that’s fine. However, I should feel confident that you’ll never intentionally cause me pain or break my heart. That’s just cruel.
- This is your final shot. If you screw this up again, it really will be goodbye forever. I’m a forgiving person and I believe that we all make mistakes sometimes, but I’m also not a fool and I respect myself too much to let anyone play me for one. You don’t get unlimited shots with me, so make this one count.
- I’m only doing this because I love you. So if you don’t love me, please don’t take this second chance. I don’t want to just make things work with a man who’s content with me. I want a man who can’t imagine his life without me. Can you give that to me?
- I don’t want this hanging over our heads forever. While you have a lot to make up for, I also don’t want our first try to affect our second. If we’re going to try again, I want us to make some real progress — good progress that allows us to leave all the BS in our pasts behind.
- I need 100%. I want a real relationship this time. No more casual, no more “let’s see where things go.” You need to put everything you have into the relationship this time. I don’t want just a piece of your heart, I want it all. This is your final shot and it’s all or nothing. Are you in?
