Are You Good At Being Single Or Desperate For A Guy?

Are you good at being single? While you’d like to think you’re killing it when it comes to being on your own, ask yourself these questions to get to the truth about how you fare solo.

  1. Do you enjoy your own company? When you’re good at being single, staying in on the weekend alone sounds like bliss to you. It’s not because you don’t have a vibrant social life or haven’t been invited out, it’s just that you like your own company — and plus, you’re mid-Netflix binge.
  2. Are you unapologetic about your independence? It took you time to get to this place of confidence, so you won’t stand for it if someone tries to shame you or belittle you into thinking being single is a bad thing. You have no time for people like that, and rightly so! Women who are good at being single aren’t independent by circumstance, they’re independent by nature. Is this you?
  3. Do you have amazing friends who love being single too? Like attracts like. If you love being single, you’re likely to have attracted the same crowd with the same vibe. You’re that awesome friend group in the corner of the club that everyone wishes they could join because you’ve surrounded yourself with people who are literally the life of the party, and you wouldn’t have it any other way.
  4. Are you confident exploring the world around you on your own? Being alone doesn’t scare you; trying new things doesn’t scare you; going to events without company isn’t nerve-racking for you because it’s your life. Since learning how to stand on your own two feet, you’ve learned to have fun on your own too! There are too many amazing things to do and places to see in this world to sit around waiting for someone else to do it with.
  5. Do you have lots of passions, interests, and hobbies? Not being afraid to do things alone and having more time dedicated to yourself means you’re probably more sociable than most your coupled friends. If so, single life probably suits you because you spend more time doing fun and interesting things — and frankly, you probably have a life that most people are jealous of!
  6. Are you self-reliant? Friendships fall apart, plans fall through and relationships don’t exactly have a good track record, but through your stints of being single, you’ve probably learned one important thing — how to have your own back. Hard circumstances are usually necessary to learn this lesson, but in hindsight, as cliche as it sounds, you’re probably grateful that you took the time to learn this crucial life lesson.
  7. Do you know what you want? Being single means you’ve had to get very comfortable having the whole bed to yourself, choosing which restaurant you want to go to, and picking which movie you want to see. If you’re good at being single, it’s likely made you more decisive about what you want and more determined in ensuring that you attain that decisiveness.
  8. Do you have high standards? You’ve heard it before — relationships require compromise, but being single for a while, you learn that compromising is different to settling. While you might make a few changes for the right person, you have no time for accepting less than you deserve and you can bet the guys you meet are held to high standards. Why should you accept just anything? No thanks.
  9. Are you over your exes? Being single isn’t meant to be your chance to abuse yourself for all the relationships in the past. If you’re good at being single, you won’t be stalking your exes or secretly hoping your nab a partner before your most recent ex does. However things ended between you, you’ll wish your partner the best and leave it at that. They’re no longer in your life, so why would you waste any more time thinking about them?
  10. Are you protective of your current life? Being good at being single means you won’t settle just for the sake of not being on your own anymore. If someone is going to come in and invade your perfect life that you’ve worked so hard for, you can be sure that they’re going to vetted. They’re going to have to be worth every ounce of energy and time that you’re taking away from yourself — and that’s a good thing.
  11. Are you unphased by being the third wheel? If hanging around your coupled friends doesn’t induce pangs of jealousy, that’s a great sign that you’re doing singlehood the right away. Although being a third wheel is often mocked in movies, it’s not a bad thing that you don’t differentiate between people merely because of their relationship status. Plus, you know if you have good friends, they’ll never make you feel like your presence isn’t important anyway.
  12. Do you find it easy to talk to new people? Just like being single is a skill, being able to strike up a conversation with anyone and everyone is a skill. Perhaps it’s all that practice from needing to know how to flirt, or maybe it’s because you’ve become a social butterfly since being single. Regardless, it’s a skill that comes in handy in more ways than just your love life!
Michelle Elman is a body confidence activist, certified life coach, creator of Scarred not Scared, and founder of Mindset for Life. She’s written for publications including Cosmopolitan, Huffington Post, and Grazia and appeared on ITV’s “This Morning,” Sky News, Loose Women, and more. She’s also the author of the book “How To Say No.” You can follow Michelle on Instagram at @michelleelman, on Twitter @michelleelman, or on her website,