While a lot of guys probably think the secret to getting laid more lies in being super fit and kind of arrogant, the truth is that those two things rarely ever work long-term. In fact, a new study has revealed that guys who are the most successful in the bedroom have three particular personality traits in common and they’re probably not the ones you think.
- The study comes courtesy of the Queensland University of Technology in Australia. Researchers at the university pulled data from 3,000 men and 1,500 women who have active sex lives to figure out what it is that made men so, well, f*ckable. While taking good physical care of yourself is always a positive, it came down to more internal factors.
- They’re more outgoing. This doesn’t mean they’re extreme extroverts who border on being obnoxious, just that they’re more social creatures who are happier to put themselves out there and engage in friendly conversations and fun experiences. Makes a lot of sense, if you think about it.
- They’re emotionally stable. There’s nothing worse than a dude who flies off the handle at the slightest inconvenience and who can’t keep his emotions in check (or acts like he doesn’t give AF about anything in the first place). Women like guys who are even-keeled and have high emotional IQs. It’s one of the sexiest qualities ever.
- They’re conscientious. In other words, they think about people other than themselves. Who wants to sleep with a selfish guy? If he puts himself first in his everyday life, chances are he’d do the same in the bedroom, and ain’t nobody got time for that. Guys who consider other people’s thoughts, feelings, and desires are way more likely to have active, solid sex lives, and it’s easy to see why.
- Women are attracted to these qualities for a reason. As therapist Bianca Rodriguez explained to the New York Post, “Women want to feel safe, they want their feelings to be cherished. Women are more discerning than men when it comes to sex, and they’re looking for qualities in a man that would indicate stability, that they’ll stick around.”
- Funny enough, this only works one way. While the characters that make men more sexually appealing are pretty easy to isolate, such is not the case for women, according to researcher Dr. Stephen Whyte. “… Findings suggest that the greater variance in male traits and their particular combinations may provide an advantage for them when it comes to sex and reproduction but that doesn’t appear to be the case for the women,” he said. Still, pretty interesting!