11 Hangups That Are Holding You Back From Achieving Your Best Life

You might feel down on your luck and be wondering why you can’t get to where you want to be in life, but it’s time to take a closer look at yourself. If you’re doing any of these 11 things, you’re the one holding yourself back from living your best life.

  1. You’re in a comfort zone. Maybe you do just what’s required to get by. Maybe you’re always putting off those goals that lie just outside of your comfort zone. The problem with comfort zones is that they can seriously hold you back by making it feel okay for you to never challenge yourself. It’s not okay! If you want to achieve your goals, you have to stretch yourself to meet them!
  2. Your thinking is over the top. You overthink things so much, you sometimes feel crazy. Thinking too much can cause you to battle to make decisions because it paralyzes you mentally. Get in tune with what you want and why you should chase it so you can clear the mental clutter.
  3. You’re negative. If you want to achieve your goals and find your happiness it’s not going to do you any favors to keep seeing the clouds instead of the sunshine. You need a little faith and magic at times and don’t be afraid to believe in it. At the very least, it will help you to have the right attitude. As Oprah Winfrey once said, “You don’t become what you want. You become what you believe.”
  4. You beat yourself up. You’re always throwing punches at yourself, not physically but emotionally and mentally. If you make a mistake, you scream at yourself and remind yourself that you’re stupid and worthless. Who needs enemies with all that negative self-talk?
  5. You have no inspiration. You know that awesome feeling when you read an inspiring story and it motivates you to follow your heart? You know that feeling when you put on some feel-good music and it totally brings out your creative spirit? You need these resources in your life so that you stay on track with what you want, whether they’re picture boards, playlists, books, Netflix movies, or anything else that appeals to you.
  6. You’re afraid of the unknown. If you’re afraid of being single, traveling alone, or starting a creative class, you need to figure out why. Sometimes the fear of the unknown can keep us stuck in the past or present, or in unhappy situations.
  7. You’re bending over backward for others. You might be a kind, caring person who would give someone your last cent, but make sure you’re not a doormat. This isn’t just bad for those crucial boundaries you need but it can also tire you out in a big way. The result? You have no time or energy for doing the things you need to do to be happy and chase your dreams.
  8. You have the wrong friends. It’s so true when they say you have to watch the company you keep. If all your friends are negative and waste their days away by smoking weed and boozing it up, you could be influenced by their chilled living in the present. While there’s nothing wrong with living in the moment, you need to broaden your view and know where you’re going otherwise your future will just be more of the same.
  9. Your insecurities hold you back. If you can’t handle a compliment or you always feel like you’re not good enough for the person you’re dating or the new job position you’ve started, you’re not only your worst enemy – you’re basically telling the universe that you deserve to settle for less.
  10. You don’t learn about yourself. You’re not the same person you were five or 10 years ago, so update your information! By learning about who you are right now and how you’ve changed, you’ll have a much better idea of what you want and what makes you happy, otherwise, you risk chasing after things that aren’t good enough for you.
  11. You’re afraid of failure. If you’re afraid of taking risks and chances because you might fail, you’re completely ignoring the fact – yes, it’s a fact – that you could actually take yourself to a higher level of growth. Failure isn’t a sign you’re not meant to do something. It just sharpens you so that you can be tougher, stronger, and bolder. Make failure your BFF and who knows what could happen?
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.