I was dating this guy and things were going well enough. I didn’t think we’d be together forever or anything, but we had a lot in common and the sex was pretty good, so I thought we’d keep “hanging out” together for as long as that continued to be the case. Clearly, he wasn’t on the same page because he ghosted me a couple of months into things without explanation, basically just dropping off the face of the earth. Message received, bro: you lost interest, fair enough. So then why is this dude still watching my Stories on a daily basis?
- He didn’t care enough to stick around. We hadn’t just gone on a couple of dates when he disappeared. We’d been seeing each other (and sleeping with each other) for a few months when he suddenly stopped replying to my texts and I never heard from him again. I’m not naive or desperate, so I took it on the chin as yet another dating disappointment. Then I noticed him watching every last one of my Insta Stories. WTF?
- He has no shame. I’ve accidentally clicked on exes’ Stories before and felt super embarrassed/filled with dread and panic because I was just trying to scroll through their feed without being noticed. When that happened, I immediately swiped off so that I only saw the first slide or two. However, this guy is literally watching every single meme, selfie, and repost I put on my Stories on a daily basis.
- Does he think I don’t see him watching my Stories? At first I thought maybe he didn’t realize that you can see who’s watching your Stories, but he posts them too, so he must understand the basic concept. I wondered if maybe he didn’t realize it for a while and figured he’d stop checking out my feed when he did. No dice — he still watches.
- It’s a bit of an ego stroke, to be honest. In a sense, it’s total bullsh-t because he ghosted me which is incredibly callous and disrespectful. I got over him immediately because I like to protect my energy; incidentally, someone being a jerk is a major turn-off for me. However, it’s somewhat flattering that he still has some kind of feelings about me to be watching my Stories on a regular basis. Clearly I’m not all that easy to forget.
- I sometimes post extra hot selfies just for him. Not because I want him to come crawling back but because I want him to know what he’s missing. I’m not dating anyone else yet because I’m loving the single life and have no desire to wade through the cesspool of available men right now, but I also realize I’m a catch and when I do get into a relationship, the guy I’m with should be so lucky.
- It’s kinda pathetic, to be honest. The fact that this guy is still watching my Stories despite the fact that we don’t even talk anymore is a little bit sad. He treated me like garbage by dumping me without ever saying a word but still feels totally comfortable following me on social media to find out details about my life that he would know about first-hand if he stuck around. I kinda don’t see his point, but I do feel sorry for the idiot.
- I know I should block him but I haven’t yet. Knowing my ex is watching my Stories but has still yet to say a word to me — he hasn’t apologized or explained himself or said anything at all — is pretty infuriating and really confusing and I’ve considered blocking him plenty of times. I don’t know why I haven’t done it yet other than that I like feeling slightly smug knowing that even though he’s the one who left me, he obviously still can’t get me off his mind.
