10 Signs His Social Media Status Is About You (And How To Deal)

You’re not vain, but you can’t help but wonder if what your date is posting on social media has something to do with you. To find out for sure, pay attention to these signs.

  1. It feels like déjà vu. If he’s posting something that sounds a little too familiar, perhaps because you just told him about it, then you’re hijacking his thoughts. Awww. Or, your words made such an impression on him that he couldn’t resist sharing them to intrigue his followers.
  2. You were just together. This might not always be the case but when it happens, it does make you think! If you and the guy had just spent time together and then he goes on social media to say what a fantastic time he had, it’s definitely a sign that he’s got you on the brain. If you’re one of his followers, he might be trying to let you know.
  3. He’s being passive-aggressive. While the previous point can make you smile, it can also show up in a negative way. If you and the guy just exchanged a few hostile words and then he went on social media to moan about it without giving details about what happened between you, then that can mean he’s venting about you. Ugh.
  4. He’s trying to get your attention. If he’s posting stuff that seems a little too familiar because it rings so true for you, then maybe he’s posting it to get your attention. For example, if you mentioned you love horses and now he’s posting interesting facts about them or if you mentioned you love Latin American dancing and he’s posting an upcoming dance event in your area.
  5. He posts things only you know about. Maybe you guys were laughing about something together and now he’s mentioning it. It’s clear that’s a throwback to your date, especially if he’s mentioning one of your private jokes.
  6. He’s asking his followers for advice. This one can feel a bit weird. Imagine if you log onto Facebook and see that your date is asking his followers for advice regarding women and how to make a relationship work. Yikes. Clearly the guy is pretending to be smooth around you when he’s actually battling in the dating game. This type of status is most likely to be about you if he’s posting it before you guys are set to go on a date.
  7. He’s posting selfies. If you’ve just been hanging out and see that he’s now posting tons of gym selfies even though he never really used to, it’s clear that he’s hoping to show you his assets. It could be his way of trying to get your attention and flirt with you.
  8. His attack seems personal. You might be dealing with a toxic guy who likes to use your insecurities against you. Imagine that during a fight the guy said you were being too negative and always saw the rain clouds instead of the sunshine. Later, you logged onto Facebook and Instagram and saw that he’d written something like, “Don’t you hate being around negative people?” Ouch! If you’re following each other, this feels like he’s rubbing vinegar into the wound!
  9. He posts whenever you log on. It can sometimes happen that you log onto Facebook and see that your crush has just posted something. What a coincidence! However, if this keeps happening, then you have to wonder if he’s trying to post updates when there’s a greater chance of you seeing them.
  10. He’s smitten. You met two weeks ago and since your first date, he’s been sharing and posting things on social media that speak of finding the right person and feeling loved up. Hmm. Of course, his posts might not actually be about you—he might be dating others at the same time, for example—but they certainly do make you think…
  11. How do you deal? It’s worth mentioning that just because you think someone is posting things about you on social media, this isn’t always what’s going on. Of course, if there are clear signs that the posts are about you, then that’s different. But what should you do? The best thing is to pretend you haven’t seen them. If he has something to tell you, whether negative or positive, let him be man enough to do it. If you rush in and confront him, it could backfire or just make you seem like a social media stalker.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.