How To Improve Your Relationship Via Text

If you’re looking to improve the communication in your relationship, a good place to start is looking at your texting habits. Many people prefer to text than talk on the phone nowadays. With a few simple taps on your screen, it’s easy to send a message to anyone in your contact list, including your significant other. But without the chance to gauge the person’s physical communication cues like facial expressions and body language, it can make texting tricky. However, you can actually improve your relationship by doing a few simple things.

  1. Don’t Take Days To Reply. It’s important to put in the effort to reply to your partner’s messages. You don’t have to respond the moment he texts something, especially if you’re in the middle of something, but try not to let more than a few hours pass before you respond.
  2. Send Him One Nice Thing Per Day. An easy way to express your love and gratitude for someone is to shower him with compliments. If your partner needs a bit of extra loving, make the effort to send him one sweet thing a day, whether it’s a quick reminder you love him or a compliment on his looks.
  3. Don’t Have Arguments Over Text. It may seem effective to argue through messages because you can write out what you want to say. But it’s better to have serious conversations in person so you can gauge the person’s body language and vice versa. Besides, it’s always better to share important news or have hard conversations when you’re face-to-face.
  4. Ask Him How He’s Doing. A simple way to show someone you care is to check in with him and ask them how he’s doing. Question him about his day, or if he seems bothered by something, encourage him to open up. Remind him that you have a listening ear.
  5. Don’t Just Say ‘K.’ While some people think that ‘k’ is an easy response to give, others may find it rude and be turned off by the lack of effort. Try to give him more than a single-letter response. He’ll appreciate the effort you put in and won’t take your simple ‘k’ as a sign that something is off.
  6. Use Emojis To Convey Feelings. Like I’ve said, it can be hard figuring out how someone means something he’s said without assessing his body language. In order to get your point across and make sure that lines aren’t crossed, use emojis to convey what you mean, whether you use a laughing emoji after a joke or a heart when you tell him you love him.
  7. Don’t Leave Him On Read. The most annoying thing is having someone read your message and then simply not respond. This can cause a lot of tension in your relationship. Whenever possible, reply to his messages. Unless he’s said something out of line, he doesn’t deserve to be left on read.
  8. Stay Away From One-Word Responses. Again, simply replying with one word may come across as though you’re not interested, or even worse, that you’re upset. But replying with a few words or a couple of lines shows that you’re putting in an effort. Even more, it will encourage him to be more detailed in the text messages he sends you. It’s a win-win.
  9. Don’t Obsess Over His Responses. With text messages, it’s too easy to go back and look at what he’s said. Especially if you’ve had an argument, constantly re-reading his replies can cause you to overthink things. Take some time away from your phone before you re-read his messages in order to have a clearer head and thus a better perspective.
  10. Send Him A Selfie, Not Just A Text. Sending someone a photo takes more effort than a simple text and he’ll appreciate seeing your gorgeous face. Don’t stress over how you look. He’ll love that you sent him a selfie on a whim. And if he does criticize your selfie-taking skills, then you may want to reconsider whether he’s worth your time.
  11. Don’t Obsessively Text Him. No one likes it when their S.O. is being clingy. If you send him a ton of text messages before he has a chance to read him – or worse, you’re constantly asking him why he’s not replying – it will only come across as a turn-off. Sometimes less is more.
  12. Send Him A Good Morning Text. Everyone loves to feel appreciated first thing in the morning. To make your S.O. really feel special, send him a sweet message in the morning to show him that he’s on your mind.
  13. Don’t Over-Abbreviate Things. For some people, using abbreviations in text is just a way to make things faster. But for others, they may take it as a sign that you’re putting in minimal effort. It’s also easier to confuse things if everything is abbreviated. Keep lines of communication open and clear by spelling the whole thing out.
  14. Adjust Your Expectations. Not everyone is a texter, plain and simple. It’s important that you recognize what kind of texter your S.O. is. Maybe he likes to constantly message you, and if that’s the case, he’ll appreciate it when you get back to him quickly. But if he isn’t glued to his phone or he’s just bad with messages, it’s important to recognize that it’s not fair to try to change his ways. It’s okay to communicate your needs and expectations when it comes to communication, but at the same time, make sure to respect his texting habits too.
Alexandra is a freelance writer in Montreal, Quebec. She enjoys shopping as a sport, Buffy the Vampire Slayer re-runs, and being a plant mom.