I Don’t See Being Difficult As A Bad Thing When It Comes To Dating — Here’s Why

Being difficult, challenging, high maintenance, or whatever you like to call it can come across negatively when you’re trying to date someone new and you hardly know the guy. However, instead of being insulted by the descriptor, I actually take it as a compliment. After all, nothing good in life comes easy, right?

  1. Everybody has their flaws. I’m the first to admit that I put up walls when it comes to new dating prospects and relationships. After all, I’ve been hurt a lot in the past. Haven’t we all? We all have our flaws and things we don’t necessarily like about ourselves. In fact, I think there’s a little bit of a challenge in every one of us, and it’s up to romantic prospects to break down our barriers and get us to open up by showing us that we can trust them. Our hearts are in their hands.
  2. It’s better he finds out now. I’m not going to apologize for who I am, so it’s better that he finds out now that I’m not the easiest gal to handle. It’s not that I’m demanding and expect a lot from guys, I just have zero tolerance for BS due to my age and past experiences when it comes to relationships. It’s better he finds out now that I won’t be messed around or played for a fool – it might save us both a lot of heartache in the long run.
  3. I like a guy who’s up for a challenge. If he’s up for the challenge of trying to break down my walls then I already respect him a thousand percent more than a guy who just simply refuses to take a chance on me and give it a go. It displays his interest and shows just how much he cares about me. I want to spend my time getting to know guys who won’t just give up at the first sign of trouble. Why? I’m looking ahead. Real relationships are never plain sailing.
  4. I like to be chased. To be honest, I rather like it when guys express interest and chase me instead of the other way around. It makes me feel special, wanted, and empowered. And who’s going to say no to feeling like that? Not me!
  5. I know what I want. The truth is that I’m not getting any younger. I’m getting to a point in my life where I can’t afford to spend any time dicking around when it comes to guys. I know what I want. I want to find a potential life partner and I’m not going to compromise my needs and wishes for the sake of someone else’s. So, I will give a new guy a hard time. I will test him to make sure that he’s on my wavelength. Why? Because I’m not going to waste another moment on a guy who wants different things. Been there, done that.
  6. I’m not going to settle for something mediocre. As well as refusing to waste any more of my precious time on unfulfilling guys, I’m adamant that I’m not going to be a settler either. I know a lot of people in generations previously have chosen to settle because it was easier and more comfortable to do this than take a risk, which I get, but that’s just not me. I want an extraordinary love, so I’ll be making sure that a romantic prospect wants that too.
  7. It sets a solid foundation for a relationship. A potential boyfriend needs to know right from the start that I’m not going to be running around doing all the work if what we have progresses into a relationship. By this, I mean that I expect a partnership to be 50/50 when it comes to arranging dates and checking in with each other, for example. If he doesn’t want to be my equal or assumes I’m going to put him on a pedestal, then he can get out right now.
  8. He’s got to be able to handle me at my worst. Like the age-old Marilyn Monroe quote states: “If he can’t handle me at my worst, then he sure as hell doesn’t deserve me at my best.” So, if he can put up with all my tests, impatience, and low tolerance for BS, then I know for sure that he’s a keeper.
  9. I’ll make it worth his while. If he does manage to break down my emotional barriers and take everything that I’ve thrown his way in his stride, then he’s the type of guy I’ll want to hold onto. And when I reach that point, where I completely respect and trust a guy to love me and protect my heart like he 100% should, then I’m the best girlfriend ever. I’ll treat him so good, and the final destination will be worth the rough journey.
Katie Davies is a British freelance writer who has built a career creating lifestyle content that caters to the modern woman. When she's not sipping tea, shopping, or exploring a new city, you'll probably find her blogging about her fashion and travel adventures at https://trendytourist.co.uk.