I’m Doing Me & These Things Will Never Tear Me Down

I’m Doing Me & These Things Will Never Tear Me Down ©iStock/BraunS

The world will completely tear you down if you let it, and we’re often surrounded by negativity and unnecessary judgment. Instead of giving in to the people who want to tear you down, try to stay strong and not let them get to you. I worked hard to build myself up, so I’ll never let these 11 things to bring me down:

  1. Judgments about my sex life. For women, it sometimes feels like you can never win when it comes to your sex life. You’re promiscuous if you hook up with too many guys, and a prude if you hook up with too few. Since you’ll never be able to please everyone anyway, there’s no point in even trying. Instead of allowing these judgments to hurt my feelings and influence my behavior, I do whatever makes me feel happy and satisfied.
  2. Body shaming. It’s a tough world for the chubby girls, the skinny girls, athletic women, and the curvy bombshells. No matter what your body type is, some people will always try to make you feel ugly and unworthy of happiness. My body is a pretty small percentage of who I am as a whole, so I won’t allow anyone to determine my worth based off of something so negligible.
  3. Bullying. Thanks to the Internet, bullying doesn’t stop after high school anymore! Mean people and trolls are everywhere, actively trying to upset strangers online. While I’m not completely immune to the effects of Internet bullying, I won’t let it ruin my day, because I know those people have some pretty serious issues that have nothing to do with me.
  4. Toxic relationships. Toxic people will drag you down until you’re as miserable as they are. I cut them out instead of allowing them to continue to weigh on my life without giving anything in return.
  5. Double standards. Double standards can drive a woman crazy if she tries to conform to them. Complying to a separate set of rules because of your gender is not only ridiculous, but will also set you to feel suffocated and resentful. If a behavior is OK for a man, it’s OK for me, even if people give me crap for it.
  6. Style critiques. You should wear whatever brings you joy, because people will make nasty comments about your choices anyway. You’re either too revealing, too conservative, too trendy, too outdated, too cheap, too much of a label whore, etc. etc. If you want to make me feel bad about something as stupid as my outfit choice, then you’re not the kind of person whose opinion I care about anyway.
  7. Hurtful gossip. Hearing nasty rumors about yourself can really sting and put a giant gray cloud over your entire day. You can allow the person who started the rumors win by letting them tear you down, or you can hold your head high, ignore them, and know that people who gossip only do so because they have nothing interesting in their own lives to talk about.
  8. Jealousy. When people are jealous of you, it can cause drama, but allowing jealousy into your own heart will really tear you down. We all accidentally give into jealousy from time to time, but acting on it will turn you into a person you don’t like or recognize.
  9. Make up shaming. I’m not trying to “trick” any guy into finding me attractive and I have no self-esteem problems. Make up is a fun hobby and a relaxing ritual, so you can take your judgments and your swimming on the first date propositions elsewhere while I completely slay my winged liner.
  10. Naysayers. There will always be people who will tell you that you can’t accomplish something, so don’t even try. Before you let them talk you into giving up, think about why anyone would want you to fail before you even really tried. They are threatened by the possibility of your success, because they don’t have any of their own.
  11. Anyone who would like me to “fit the mold” better. I’m a little outside the box, but I like who I am just fine. Trying to fit a mold or meet someone else’s expectation would only make me feel suffocated, so I won’t cave to the pressure. I’m doing me, being myself, and being happy- even if other people don’t like it.
Holly Harris is a freelance writer, full time student, and mommy to a toddler sass monster. In her (nearly nonexistent) free time, you can find her lifting something heavy in her home gym or chugging vodka sodas with friends. She contributes to several other sites, including Elite Daily.