I’m Finally Done With Men Who Treat Me Like Crap

I’ve been used before. I’ve been cheated on and I’ve had my heart shattered. I used to think that I deserved it, but that’s BS, and those days are over. In fact, I’m finally done with men who treat me like crap.

  1. I love myself too much. I’m not willing to put myself through nasty fights and emotional abuse anymore. I’m sick of crying myself to sleep and checking my phone for texts. Honestly, I deserve better than that.
  2. If they liked me, they’d treat me right. I don’t care how much money they make or how big their penises are. If they’re not treating me right, then they obviously don’t like me enough to be called my boyfriend. I want someone who’s crazy about me, not someone who drives me crazy.
  3. They shouldn’t get away with it. Why should I reward a man with snuggles and sex when he treats me like crap? It’s only encouraging him. If we want men to stop treating us badly, we have to stop letting them believe that their behavior is acceptable.
  4. I don’t want to get used to it. I’ve been getting used to unanswered calls and meaningless sex, and that shouldn’t be the case. I don’t want to think that kind of lifestyle is normal, which is why I have to start putting my foot down right now.
  5. Single life isn’t so bad. As much as I’d love a sweet guy to go on dates with, I’d rather be single than deal with one more player. I’m my own best friend and I own a vibrator. A boyfriend really isn’t necessary.
  6. Better things are out there. Why would I settle for mediocre when I could have perfection? I’m not naive and I’m not blind. I know that there are good men out there that are waiting for me to find them.
  7. I should be a priority. I’m sorry, but I’m not going to be your girlfriend unless you treat me like the best thing that’s ever happened to you. I’m not cocky enough to believe that I’m actually your whole world, but I want you to believe that I am. Otherwise, what’s the point?
  8. I want to set a good example. I have family members and friends who see the way my boyfriend treats me. I don’t want them to hear me complain about getting treating like crap, and end up in a crappy relationship of their own. If I’m going to tell them that they deserve better, then I have to start acting like I deserve better, too.
  9. I won’t make dating more stressful than it should be. Relationships are supposed to be fun. I’m not going to date a man I can’t have a conversation with without arguing. If that’s what’s in store for me, then I’d rather be alone.
  10. I can be patient. I’m willing to hold out for a guy who treats me the way I deserve to be treated. I have a job, good friends, and good wine to occupy my time until I find him.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.