I’m A Workaholic, But I Still Want To Make Time For Love

I’m A Workaholic, But I Still Want To Make Time For Love ©iStock/Yuri_Arcurs

I’ll admit it: I’m a total workaholic. I have a bunch of different jobs, love what I do and would always rather get stuff done than relax. Apparently this is a super attractive quality in a guy, but when a woman works 24/7, it’s considered weird and unnatural. So lame. I may dream of career success and achieving my dreams more than a white picket fence and walking down the aisle, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to make time for love:

  1. I’m realistic. I totally get that all work and zero fun isn’t the greatest long-term goal, especially when it comes to falling for someone and building a life together. I’m realistic and know that when I meet someone great, I’m going to give up my working weekends and spend time with them. I’m okay with that and even look forward to it. I don’t think that being a workaholic means never compromising.
  2. My work is who I am. I’m a writer, editor and food blogger. I write about my life, my favorite TV shows, what’s going on in pop culture. My work is me and if a guy doesn’t like it, he’s not getting a second date.
  3. Work is my dealbreaker. Sure, dealbreakers are kind of controversial, but like most women, I’ve got a few. My number one dealbreaker? If a guy hates his job. Period. That’s basically the most depressing, miserable and pathetic thing in the world. If someone hates their job that much, they probably should find a new one.
  4. Work and love have nothing to do with each other. Yeah, some women choose to raise families and that’s definitely hard work and I don’t discount that. But it’s totally possible to love my career and want to love someone else, too.
  5. It shouldn’t be a turn-offI would think that most guys would want a strong, ambitious woman who cared about being productive more than shoes and makeup. Being a workaholic should never be a turn-off, it should be a huge turn-on.
  6. Something is missing. I’m not the kind of single girl who thinks that work can fulfill 100 percent of your needs. I want love too, because it feels like that important piece of my life is totally missing. That doesn’t even depress me, that excites me, because it gives me hope for a future where I’m going to have everything that I want: a fun, fulfilling career and a personal life to match it, too.
  7. The right guy will respect my ambition. These days, I’m going on a lot of first dates that don’t result in anything because the person sitting across from me at my favorite bar shrugs when I talk about how much I love what I’m doing. That’s okay. It sucks, but it won’t be that way forever. Eventually, I’ll meet the right guy who will totally respect my obsession, and I can wait. I’ve got enough work to occupy me in the meantime.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.