There’s nothing quite like that pressure of sending the first text to someone you like. For those of you that don’t understand what the correct etiquette is, get your pen and paper out. Here are some juicy messages to send your dates to get them even more excited to see you again.
- “Hey, handsome.” It’s direct, complimentary, and shows that you’re attracted to him. In these instances, it’s best to start slow. I know that you might be tempted to show off your dazzling personality, but make sure that you have at least said hello and introduced yourself first. There’s nothing less genuine than sending a cheesy pickup line that you obviously stole from the internet. For your charming personality to show through, you have to send a few, safer messages in order to get on first-name terms. Then, you can start weaving in the magic of your saucy side.
- When you’re stuck, send an eggplant emoji. Or a peach. When it comes to juicy messages for your dates, these are pretty much the standard. Once you have negotiated the opening spars, it’s time to whip out the memes. Do whatever feels natural when you feel sexy, and find a way of being creative. If you’re shy, sending the eggplant emoji is a great way of easing into it and getting comfortable with sexting. Emojis can add spice to the most innocuous of messages. It also shows that you have a killer sense of lighthearted humor.
- “What are you doing tonight, babe?” Be direct and don’t be afraid to text them first. I know all the magazines and TV shows want to convince you that there’s some magic trick to sexting. But, the best way to attract a guy via text is to be yourself and be confident. If you’re interested in them, just tell them and take the initiative. You can’t go wrong.
- “I find it so attractive when …” Keep finding ways to get out of your comfort zone. This might sound daunting to newbies but don’t be alarmed. If you have a secret fantasy, it will really spice things up to tell your crush over text. Or, send a provocative picture if saying the words feels harder. The goal is to get their attention and develop the talking stage into something more playful. Whatever sexy means to you, embrace that. Your dates will love juicy messages like this because it shows them that you’re nuts about them.
- “Would you rather…” No one is above a game of ‘would you rather’. It can start out pretty vanilla and then escalate quickly. You can get a read on what your crush is interested in, and it ensures you can judge your own boundaries too. Plus, you will get into new territory, and you can ask them emotional and physical questions so that you’re getting to know them on both levels. It’s efficient and great for beginners.
- “Never Have I ever …” This is a really effective way of communicating how experienced you are already. That helps set the tone for what’s to come, as well as shows your crush what you might be interested in in the future. It sounds like it’s the same game you play at 8th-grade parties, but by talking honestly about your experiences, you can see what their sexual preferences are. This is all valuable research for ways to spice up your texts in the future.
- Tell them about all the ways you’re attracted to them. Start with phrases like ‘it was so hot when you…’, or, ‘I love it when you…’. It’s a compliment to your crush, and you also get to put your cards on the table. That boldness is really attractive. Honesty is the best way to authentically generate heat in your relationship. It means that your crush gets more confident too, and is more likely to respond with compliments of their own for you. It’s a win-win.
- “I want you to touch me.” This speaks for itself. The control, the conviction, and let’s be real, everyone likes being bossed around. Make sure the other person is on board, and you’re good to go. This is the golden egg of getting a crush’s attention over text.
- Tell them about your fantasies. This is where you can really get into the dirty territory. Have a glass of wine in hand as fuel, and tell them you want them up against a wall in an hour. It’ll get your crush excited to generate fantasies of their own, and if they don’t vibe with it, better to know over text than go any further. Having to figure out if you like them or not will be an issue you address in three months’ time, not now. For now, seize the moment and test out your kinks.
- Keep it clean… grammatically. Hey, if the actual message is going to be dirty, you might as well keep the grammar clean. A final piece of advice to attract a guy via text: try to keep typos and grammar errors out of the way. It’s worth scanning your messages for those embarrassing mistakes. These are the first impressions that you’re giving a new person. Make sure you’re clear about what you want and where you want them and you can’t go wrong.
