Life Is Complicated When Most Of Your Friends Are Guys (But It’s A Lot Of Fun, Too)

You don’t know how it’s happened, but these days, your friend group consists mostly of guys. You’re cool with it, but a lot of people don’t get why you’d want to spend all your time with men you’re not interested in dating. Sometimes you’re even encouraged to make more effort to befriend your fellow females, which is ridiculous and never really works, anyway. Here’s what life is like for women with mostly guy friends.

  1. Sometimes girls don’t trust you. You’re not sure what they think of you exactly, but you can tell that they’re a little wary of the fact that you have fewer female friends than the average girl.
  2. Bachelorette parties are a little frightening. Hanging out with a group of girls for days on end is not a normal weekend for you, and all that girl talk is a little unsettling.
  3. Things get weird when a friend has a thing for you. The problem with being yourself in front of your guy friends is that sometimes they end up falling for you. That can make things a little awkward every once in a while, especially when you seriously don’t see them that way.
  4. Gossip shocks you since you never hear it. You heard the weirdest rumor that was passed along through a group of girls (and wildly embellished), and you’re truly alarmed that this happens in real life.
  5. Guys you date get suspicious. When guys find out your best friend is a guy, they always have to ask if you’ve ever dated or hooked up, and if not, whether if you’ve ever thought about it. Sigh.
  6. Your friends get territorial. Sometimes your guy friends get way too involved and judgmental about your dating life because they’re trying to be protective, or something.
  7. You get territorial. And then your guy friend brings a new girl into the picture that you really don’t like and you can’t even begin to hide your annoyance at the intrusion.
  8. You’re fascinated by large groups of female friends. You’re amazed and appalled all at once and wonder if you’re missing out on some of the sisterhood, but have no idea how you’d go about getting it even if you did want it.
  9. You’ve kissed some of your guy friends. Whether it happened before you were friends or on some random drunken adventure, you’ve definitely locked lips with a friend or two before, but you generally just pretend like it never happened.
  10. No one understands how much time you need to get ready. Sometimes the guys assume that you do everything like they do. They forget that you’re a lady who needs a heads up to get ready as opposed to being able to run out the door on a moment’s notice.
  11. You don’t have to deal with weird competition. Unless you count beer pong as a serious competition, you’re good on this. None of your guy friends are secretly jealous of your new haircut or being passive aggressive about a friend you made at work when they’re feeling left out.
  12. Sometimes you pick up after them. You’ve wiped down a kitchen counter here and there. It’s not that they can’t take care of themselves, you’re just better at handling those sort of things.
  13. Your mom thinks you’re secretly dating one of the guys. Or at least she hopes. She loves your besties and she can’t understand how you could possibly have just platonic feelings for them.
  14. The guys ask you for the weirdest advice. And you give it to them straight, so they should be ahead of the game with all your shared insights into a woman’s mind.
Kate Ferguson is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blog and magazine genres. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce. Look for article links, updates, (and the occasional joke) on Twitter @KateFerg or @WriterKateFerg, or check out her personal blog ThatsRandomKate.blogspot.com