Olympian Says Admitting She’s A 40-Year-Old Virgin Has Killed Her Dating Life

Lolo Jones is a legendary athlete who’s appeared (and won!) at both the summer and winter Olympics and is the 3x world champion in hurdling. However, her success in sports has come at a cost: she has no love life. And while the 40-year-old was brave enough to be open about still being a virgin, her admission has done nothing to improve her chances of meeting someone amazing.

Because achieving athletic greatness takes full concentration and dedication, Jones never had much time for dating and relationships. However, that has come back to haunt her as she’s always wanted to find a partner and become a mom and she’s nowhere near ready for either.

In a 2021 interview on “HBO Real Sports” with Bryant Gumbel, Jones said her choice to abstain from sex over the years was the “hardest thing” she’s done. However, she also knew it was the right thing as she doesn’t believe in having sex before marriage.

“It’s just something, a gift I want to give to my husband. But please understand, this journey has been hard,” she said. “There’s virgins out there, I’m gonna let them know, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. Harder than training for the Olympics, harder than graduating from college, has been to stay a virgin before marriage.”

Now, two years later, Jones wishes she hadn’t been so frank about her situation, calling it a “mistake.” On Kevin Hart’s “Cold As Balls” podcast, Lolo Jones said she never should have told the world she’s a virgin as it hasn’t done her any favors.

“That was a mistake. That killed all my dates after that — like didn’t even have a chance. Like before, at least I had a chance,” she explained. “Before, I’d like, tiptoe, ‘Okay, when’s a good time to tell him? Do I wait until he sees my personality a little bit? Or do I just drop the bomb?'”

She added that not having sex has also impacted her career, saying: “I have a higher level of intensity because I don’t have any pressure release. Everybody knows me as stressed out. Having sex actually helps you as an athlete, a female athlete. It’s good for your hormones. So I’m running at a disadvantage.”

Nevertheless, Lolo Jones is trekking on, virginity be damned. She recently began freezing her eggs in preparation for if she and her future husband decide to become parents.

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