We May Only Be Hooking Up, But I Still Expect To Be Treated With Respect

For some reason, the rise of hookup culture has created a subset of men who treat the women they’re hooking up with like total garbage just because they can. It should be the opposite — just because we aren’t in a relationship doesn’t mean I don’t still deserve respect. We’re both still human beings with feelings, so let’s act like it, okay?

We could make this a regular thing.

There’s a difference between the sex you have with a true one-night stand and the sex you have in a friends with benefits type arrangement. I don’t know about anyone else, but I definitely prefer having sex with someone I’m comfortable with. I’m never going to be comfortable with a guy who treats me like crap unless he wants to get laid that night, so if you want to do this more than once, be nice.

I’m not going to fall in love with you just because you’re nice to me.

A lot of guys seem to worry that if they’re too nice to a girl they’re sleeping with, she’s eventually going to pull the, “So, where is this going?” thing. For me personally, it takes a little more than a guy showing a little common decency to fall in love, but feel free to keep thinking that highly of yourself if you want.

I already know where I stand.

You don’t have to drive home the fact you don’t want a relationship by being a loser — if we’re doing this the right way, I already know. Besides, what makes you think I want anything more than a physical thing with you? Get over yourself.

I don’t need sex badly enough to put up with an a-hole.

Sex is amazing, but even the best sex isn’t worth being treated like garbage by a guy who’s probably way too cocky for his own good. In fact, that guy is probably making my life harder with his constant hot and cold attitude. Not worth the headaches.

I can always get what you’re offering elsewhere.

Not only can I just keep swiping through Tinder if all I’m looking for is a one-time thing, I’m also more that capable of taking care of myself. I don’t need to suffer emotional abuse from some a-hole to have an orgasm. Thanks anyway, though.

Treat people how you want to be treated.

How would you like it if a girl you were sleeping with ran out the door the second she had her orgasm, never even pretended to be interested in you as a person and clearly used you as a last resort? It wouldn’t feel very good, would it? There are ways to have a casual relationship and still be decent human beings, so why not give it a shot?

Women like casual sex too.

Having sex with no strings attached can be a great experience if it’s clearly communicated that that’s all it’s going to be. Granted, that doesn’t always happen in the heat of the moment, but it doesn’t mean I’m going to regret doing it. Great sex can be what it is and nothing more, so there’s no reason to act like a loser afterwards. That’s what will make me regret going home with you.

Don’t be such a stereotype.

Being the guy who sleeps with a girl and then acts like a jerk to make sure she doesn’t get attached is such a cliche. Who are you? A rejected Jersey Shore cast member? Most girls are pretty reasonable if you’re just honest — it’s really not that hard.

You’re ruining casual sex for everyone.

All it takes is for a girl to experience one too many guys who will sleep with her and never speak to her again to decide she’s never having casual sex again. That’s no fun for anyone. So try to make hooking up a pleasant experience for all the girls you get naked with — it’s better for your reputation and you’ll be showing her that casual sex can be pretty awesome in the right situation.

Being a jerk probably means you suck in bed.

If I’m sleeping with you, I expect you to at least try to get me off, because if you don’t, there’s really no point in having sex with you at all. I’m only interested in guys who care about making sure the girl they’re with is enjoying herself because women deserve to have an orgasm just as much guys do.

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