If You Meet A Great Guy, Show Your Excitement — Who Cares If It’s Not Cool?

Dating a new guy that I actually click and have chemistry with is an exciting (and rare) experience, but I’m often told to relax, calm down or curb my excitement for the sake of avoiding disappointment if he doesn’t turn out to be the as great as I initially thought he was. I’m not delusional enough to believe that any man is perfect but I refuse to force myself to play it cool if he appears to be a unicorn. If I’m excited about a guy, I’m going to act like it.

  1. Playing it cool is a game. And I have no time for games. If he’s into me, he’s going to be into me whether or not I’m “hard to get.” I’m a grown woman and my new love prospect is going to respect the fact that I tell it like it is and show my true feelings, regardless of what they are. If I expect him to play it straight, I need to be willing to do the same.
  2. What’s wrong with excitement? It’s seemingly more important to pretend like you don’t give a crap about pretty much anything than it is to just be honest, but where’s the fun in that? I’m not going to feign feelings nor am I going to pretend I’m someone I’m not. I get excited when I like a guy and I’m damn proud of that fact. It makes me feel good when a guy shows enthusiasm about me, so I have to imagine expressing my feelings will give him a boost as well.
  3. Disappointment is a walk in the park compared to what I’ve been through. I’ve had my heart shattered by someone I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with, so being disappointed by a guy after only a few weeks or months is nothing. I’ve survived way worse, so I’m not too worried about getting let down by another guy. Until he lets me down, I’m going to act as though he’s never going to.
  4. The butterflies will eventually go away. Best case scenario, the relationship works out and the guy I’m excited about turns into the love of my life. Worst case, it ends and that’s that. In both cases, though, the giddiness I’m feeling towards this new guy will eventually go away, so I’m going to enjoy it while it lasts.
  5. It’s a nice change from negative feelings towards dating. Between the hoards of players and the guys that say all the right things and then disappear when any hint of emotion shows up, dating can be a horrible experience. When I finally find a guy who I can be excited about, why would I fight that? It makes no sense.
  6. Sometimes reality sucks. So what if I have my head in the clouds over this new guy? I don’t see an issue with that. Reality blows and when something shows up out of nowhere and makes reality seem a little bit brighter, I’m really not one to force myself back down to earth so that I can prepare myself for disappointment. I like it in the clouds so that’s where I’ll stay.
  7. I’m an eternal optimist. That’s a good thing. Seeing the bright side doesn’t make me stupid, it makes me hopeful. I’m going to look at the glass half full and I’m going to look at my new love prospect as honest and sincere. I like to see the very best in people, even if they turn out to be villains in the end. And until he shows me something I can’t get past, he’ll remain a hero in my book.
  8. If I’m excited about him, he probably deserves it. Not all men are sex-crazed players and I’d like to think that the new guy I’m excited about is just as excited about me. If I’m thrilled about having him in my life then who’s to say he won’t enjoy that fact? My upfront attitude could very well be a breath of fresh air to him — being able to finally find a woman who isn’t into playing games with his emotions and tells it like it is has to be a relief.
  9. I don’t want him to lose interest because he thinks I’m indifferent. If I’m playing the game and acting as though I couldn’t care less if he contacts me, why on earth is he going to think that I like him back? Chances are he’s going to lose interest because he thinks he’s wasting his time so if I like this guy, he’s going to know about it.
  10. If it works out, all the excitement will have been worth it. If he ends up being the man of my dreams and my future husband then all that excitement wouldn’t have been in vain. It will be the beginnings of a beautiful relationship and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

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