Why Some Men Don’t Appreciate A Good Woman

Why Some Men Don’t Appreciate A Good Woman ©iStock/Squaredpixels

We’re strong, smart and funny (just to name a few qualities), but men still treat us like crap. Even when we put all of our effort into a relationship, they just don’t seem to care. Are they seriously that clueless or just jerks? Here’s why some men don’t appreciate a good woman:

  1. They don’t realize how much effort we’re putting in. Some guys don’t understand how much time and money it takes to shave, to do our makeup, and to come up with sexy texts to keep them interested. They think we’re natural beauties that don’t even have to try in order to look good.
  2. They aren’t paying attention. Some men are oblivious. They don’t notice that they’re coming home to an empty sink or that all of their shirts are folded in their drawers. They have no clue that we tidied up for them, because they never open up their eyes for long enough to take in reality.
  3. They consider sweet gestures to be crazy. According to some men, texting back quickly and showing a genuine interest means we’re psycho. If we let them see that we care about them, they assume that we want to marry them and have their babies. They get scared off, because they’re stupid enough to believe in outdated female stereotypes.
  4. They think their girlfriend should replace their mother. They were raised by doting mothers who did their laundry, washed their dishes, and cooked their meals. They were never required to do chores on their own, which is why they’re assuming we’re going to take over once they move out of their parents’ house. Of course, they have another thing coming.
  5. They have unfair standards for us. When we find a man who texts us back without asking us for nudes, we’ll be happy that he’s actually a decent human being. But when we buy him gifts and cook him meals, he’ll think we’re just doing what we’re supposed to do. They expect us to treat them like Kings, so they don’t even think about thanking us for all of our hard work.
  6. They’re not ready for a real relationship. If a man wants to say single, he’ll come up with BS excuses to hate on his girlfriend. That’s why he’ll act like we’re the problem, even if we’ve done everything we could for him. It’s just the way losers act, and there’s nothing we can do to stop it.
  7. They’ve always had it good. Most women have been with so many losers that dating a decent guy is a breath of fresh air. For most men, it’s the opposite. They’re used to dating nice girls, so when they end up with another nice girl like you, they don’t even realize how good they have it. They think being treated like royalty is the norm.
  8. They’re conditioned not to care. Even though it’s 2016, some men still believe it’s feminine to have feelings. Even if they actually appreciate us, they won’t let us know it, because they think it’ll make them less of a man. They’re stuck in a past mindset that’s going to ruin their future happiness.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.