Why You Might Still End Up With Your High School Sweetheart

Falling in love in high school is something you never forget. It’s sweet and innocent, but it’s doomed to end, right? Not necessarily. Your high school sweetheart could still come back into your life years later. Suddenly, the spark you thought had died comes back and you realize you were meant to be together all along. Hey, it could happen! Here’s why it’s not totally impossible.

  1. You both just needed time to grow. Let’s face it — you’re not exactly ready for a mature, adult relationship as a teenager. It’s not unusual to want to take some time apart to grow and find your individual self. Once you’ve both grown some, it’s easier to make the relationship work.
  2. He was your first love. Your first love will always hold a special place in your heart. For some women, it’s still the love that means the most, and nothing else compares. Eventually, that leads you right back to the person who you trusted with your heart.
  3. You keep in touch on social media. Despite the big split, you’re still friends on social media. You talk regularly, comment on photos, and can’t imagine not sharing your big moments with him. You might just be closer to him than you think.
  4. He remembers and respects your dreams. Your high school sweetheart was there when you shared all your dreams and thought anything was possible. While guys you dated in college and after might laugh at some of those dreams, he still believes in you. He even reminds you of dreams you’d pushed to the side.
  5. You regretted breaking up. A part of you has always regretted breaking up. You wondered if you could’ve made the long-distance thing work. The moment you see him again, it all comes flooding back, and you realize the breakup was a big mistake.
  6. Friends love setting you back up. Sometimes your friends do know best. They love bringing up the past and trying to get you both together, usually by tricking you into a big group outing and suddenly leaving the two of you alone. They know how happy he makes you, so listen to them.
  7. Seeing him with someone else makes you jealous. He’s just an ex, so why do you feel so jealous when you see him dating someone else? It could be a sign you never got over him and don’t really want to. Maybe the next time he’s single, see if he wants to try again.
  8. You already know everything about each other. He was with you throughout high school and the two of you shared everything. You’ve already gone through the awkward getting-to-know-you phase and fell in love anyway. There’s something comforting about that.
  9. You’re sick of dating and they’re familiar territory. It’s not like you’re just settling for your high school sweetheart. You’re just tired of one dead end after another. One day, you realize you got it right the first time and you’re ready for that familiar territory that makes you feel safe and loved again.
  10. He’s still your best friend. It’s hard for your first love not to be your best friend too. Somehow you managed to keep that friendship going even after breaking up. Fast forward 10 years and he’s still your BFF. If you think about it, he’s even more than that.
  11. Breaking up doesn’t mean the end. You think he’s long gone because you broke up. A breakup doesn’t mean it’s over forever. Everybody makes mistakes. Give it some time and you might end up back with him.
  12. A chance meeting brings back happy memories. You haven’t thought about him in years, but you go back for a high school reunion or run into him after moving back to your hometown. All those happy memories flood back in along with emotions you thought you’d left in the past.
  13. The past issues don’t seem so bad anymore. Those deal breakers when you were 18 don’t seem like a problem now. You’ve grown up and have realistic standards now. Besides, he’s grown too and left his childish issues behind, just like you have.
  14. He’s still the one who loved you most. Other guys have told you they loved you, but you know that he’s still the one who loved you more than anyone. He’s the only one who said it and made it feel right.
  15. It’s an unjaded love. That first love is innocent and sweet. It’s not jaded by bad dates, horrible breakups, liars, and cheaters. You love fully without worrying about being hurt. Sometimes, that’s the love that lasts, no matter what happens between high school and now.
Crystal Crowder is a freelance writer and blogger. She's a tech geek at heart, but loves telling it like it is when it comes to love, beauty and style. She's enjoys writing music, poetry and fiction and curling up with a great book. You can find her on Twitter @ccrowderwrites or check out her other writing on Medium.