18 Mistakes Impulsive People Often Make And Later Regret

If you’re the type who acts first and thinks later, you’re in good company! While impulsivity has its fun side, it can also lead to some not-so-great decisions. Here are some of the most common impulsive pitfalls and some ways to pump the brakes. After all, you don’t want to do or say things that will haunt you for years to come, do you?

1. You blurt out things you definitely don’t mean.

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That snappy comeback felt amazing in the moment, but now you’re cringing. Before firing off a comment, take a mini time-out, The Guardian suggests. Even a few seconds can be enough to prevent a regrettable outburst. Imagine saying the thing out loud to a sweet old lady – if you’d feel terrible, maybe keep it to yourself! Or pretend you’re typing it as a text but don’t press send yet.

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2. You hit “send” on that angry email too quickly.

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Ranting in an email feels cathartic… until you realize it’s way too harsh. Draft those angry emails, but don’t send them right away. Re-reading it a few hours later might save you some awkwardness. If it’s work-related, sleep on it – things often look less dire in the morning. You might even decide the issue isn’t worth addressing at all.

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3. You make rushed decisions with major consequences.

That spontaneous weekend trip or spur-of-the-moment tattoo seems brilliant… at first. Force yourself to wait. If it’s a good idea tomorrow, it’ll be a good idea next week too. Talk it through with a trusted friend or family member – they might help highlight things you didn’t consider in your excitement.

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4. You say “yes” to things you resent later.

Agreeing to plans out of guilt or FOMO (fear of missing out) leads to a packed schedule and a drained you. It’s okay to say “let me think about it” before committing – your real friends will understand. Saying “maybe” buys you some time and helps you avoid knee-jerk yeses that you ultimately don’t want to do.

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5. You interrupt people constantly.

Your enthusiasm is great, but interrupting makes it seem like you don’t care what others have to say. Try mentally counting to 3 before jumping into the conversation to give the other person space to finish their thought. Actively listen to what they say, then respond to their actual point – they’ll feel heard and respected.

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6. You overcommit and then flake out.

When everything sounds exciting, it’s easy to overschedule yourself. Be realistic about your time and energy, and don’t be afraid to turn things down to avoid canceling at the last minute, the American Psychological Association (APA) suggests. People understand if you’re genuinely swamped! But be honest about it, don’t make up elaborate excuses that fall apart later.

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7. You buy stuff you don’t need (or can’t afford).

Impulse buys are the best… until the bill arrives. If you’re eyeing something, put it on a “wish list” for 24 hours. If you still desperately want it tomorrow, then maybe it’s worth it. Try the “out of sight, out of mind” trick too – unsubscribing from tempting email lists and avoiding browsing online shops when you’re bored can do wonders for your wallet!

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8. You dive headfirst into new relationships.

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Falling fast can be thrilling, but rushing things might make you miss red flags. Slowing down gives you a chance to see someone clearly before getting too emotionally invested. Remember, healthy relationships are built over time. Enjoy those early stages of getting to know someone without trying to fast-track things to the next level.

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9. You spend too much time on distracting things.

Hours vanish into social media scrolling or addictive games when you meant to be productive. Set app timers or block tempting websites when you need to focus. Think of it like putting your phone in another room for a while — removing the temptation makes it easier to concentrate on the task at hand. Try rewarding yourself with distraction time after completing something important!

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10. You struggle to stick with long-term goals.

Getting fit or learning a language is tough when you crave immediate results. Break down big goals into small, achievable steps to keep yourself motivated. Instead of “I’m going to run a marathon,” start with “I’m going to go for a 20-minute jog three times this week.” Celebrate those small wins, and they’ll fuel you to keep going.

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11. You blurt out spoilers without thinking.

Not everyone binge-watches shows as fast as you do! Practice some discretion – your friends who haven’t caught up will thank you. If you simply MUST discuss the latest episode, find someone else who’s seen it. Channel that excitement into recommending the show instead, and maybe you’ll gain a new viewing buddy!

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12. You post things online you probably shouldn’t.

Late-night rants or oversharing personal info can come back to haunt you. Put your phone away and type those thoughts into a private notes app instead. If you wouldn’t want your boss or your grandma to see it, don’t post it publicly. Remember, the internet is forever, so think twice before hitting share!

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13. You procrastinate and then rush at the last minute.

Putting things off creates a vicious cycle of stress and subpar work. Start even the most dreaded tasks with a small, manageable chunk, and build from there. Tell yourself you’ll do just 10 minutes of work– oftentimes, that’s all it takes to get over the initial hurdle and get into a flow. Plus, doing a little bit is infinitely better than doing nothing!

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14. You eat whatever’s in front of you, even when you’re not hungry.

Mindlessly munching on that giant bag of chips is easy, but not so good for your health. Check in with yourself – are you eating out of boredom or true hunger? Try having a glass of water or going for a quick walk – sometimes those physical cravings fade away, or at least become less intense.

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15. You lash out emotionally when you feel hurt.

It’s tempting to react in the heat of the moment, but it rarely makes things better. If you feel overwhelmed during an argument, give yourself permission to walk away and say, “I need a minute to cool down.” Let the other person know you want to continue the discussion once you’re calmer. Taking a break gives you space to regulate your emotions and come back ready to communicate, not just argue.

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16. You prioritize instant gratification over delayed rewards.

That tempting treat now is more appealing than the potential of a healthier body later. Try visualizing the long-term benefits of your choices to make the healthier decision more tempting in the moment. Picture how good you’ll feel after a workout, or how proud you’ll be when you reach a savings goal. Sometimes appealing to your “future self” can override that impulsive craving in the present.

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17. You struggle to sit still and relax.

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Downtime feels pointless when you could be doing something. Learn to embrace short moments of mindfulness or calming activities – your future self will thank you for the reduced stress! It doesn’t have to be hours of meditation – try taking 5 slow, deep breaths, listening to a calming song, or doing a quick stretching routine. Build these mini breaks into your day, especially after a period of high activity.

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Originally from Australia, Emma Mills graduated from the University of Queensland with a dual degree in Philosophy and Applied Linguistics before moving to Los Angeles to become a professional matchmaker (a bit of a shift, obviously). Since 2015, she has helped more than 150 people find lasting love and remains passionate about bringing amazing singletons together.

Emma is also the author of the upcoming Hachette publication, "Off the Beaten Track: Finding Lasting Love in the Least Likely of Places," due out in January 2025.
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