The Most Obnoxious Things You Can Do When You Get A New Boyfriend

You’re finally in a new relationship again after being single for what felt like forever, and things are pretty awesome. You’re so happy that when a friend says you’re acting like a jerk, you’re totally confused —but she might actually have a point. You can’t help but do these 9 crappy things when you’re newly coupled up, but you should probably try not to:

  1. Ditch your friends. This is basically the number one friendship sin and yet you commit it again and again. You ignore your BFFs’ text messages, bail on girls’ night out every week and refuse to make time for them. You probably can’t even remember the last time you saw them and that’s definitely a horrible sign.
  2. Brag about how lucky you are. Of course you’re happy that you’ve got an amazing new BF, but do you have to talk everyone’s ears off about how sweet, smart, funny and hot he is? No, you don’t. It’s downright annoying and no one wants to hear it. You’re not the only person in the world with a boyfriend.
  3. Drag your BF everywhere. Guess what? You and your new guy shouldn’t be attached at the hip. That’s just weird. Alone time doesn’t kill a relationship, it saves it, so stop bringing him to every single party or work event. You can totally stand on your own two feet (and then go home to him and tell him all about what he missed).
  4. Refuse to see any warning signs. Sure, you really like the guy, but that doesn’t mean everything is 100 percent perfect. It still counts as crappy behavior when it’s directed toward yourself. You’re doing yourself a huge disservice if you won’t see any red flags or warning signs that are literally right in front of your face.
  5. Demand to see him 24/7. Your life shouldn’t magically become all about your boyfriend. Where will that leave you if things don’t exactly work out? Let him have his own schedule and don’t give up your own routine.
  6. Pressure him into traditional milestones. This is tempting — you finally have an awesome boyfriend in your life, and things couldn’t possibly get any better… or so you think. But guys don’t like pressure any more than women do, so you might want to take a step back and let things develop at their own natural pace before demanding that you two move in together even though it’s only been three months.
  7. Mention him in every single social media update. Ugh. You don’t know how it happened, but it did: you just became the girl that you usually hate. If you two ever break up, this will just cause a great big mess, so it might be best to save the swooning for when you guys are alone.
  8. Bail on plans. You were supposed to help your little sis pick out a prom dress? Oops, you “forgot.” What about meeting your coworker for coffee and a brainstorming session? She waited for an hour and you didn’t show up. Don’t be this person.
  9. Forget who you are. This is the worst thing you could do. You’re an amazing person and the new guy in your life shouldn’t make you a total bore who cares about nothing except for him. So stop this nonsense and remember the things that you love to do and the people that you care about. Your boyfriend will still be around… but you might risk losing your people forever.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.