Never Date A Guy Who’s Constantly Posting Selfies

Pretty much everyone takes selfies these days, but there’s a fine line between commemorating how hot you look one day and being a straight-up selfie habit. It’s not just women who can spend an obscene amount of time in front of the front-facing camera, either — lots of guys out there can easily fill up their camera roll with pictures of themselves. It may seem harmless at first, but if the guy you’re into seems to be REALLY into selfies, this is why you should think twice before getting involved with him.

  1. Research says he could be a psychopathTaking selfies has been linked to mental disorders and even psychopathy. A study by Ohio State University found that this is because one of the psychopathy symptoms is being impulsive. So when a guy loves taking quick pictures of himself and immediately posting them to social media, he’s being impulsive just like a psychopath would. This is even more troubling if he’s doing it all the time.
  2. He could also be narcissistic. The same study found that when guys spend time editing their selfies, this is linked to narcissism. It makes sense — think of how much time it takes to edit pictures and choose the right filters for them. Narcissistic guys are desperate for love, which could be why this guy is striving to post the perfect selfies, to begin with. But sadly, narcissists are often incapable of giving love in return. Talk about being bad boyfriend material.
  3. He won’t be focused on you. The selfie king is all about himself. He wants to post attractive images of himself and to achieve this, he has to look his best. He’ll probably be spending lots more time looking at himself in the mirror instead of into your eyes.
  4. Those selfies could lead to selfishness. If he’s always concentrating on himself, this could also lead to general selfishness in the relationship. He’ll be more likely to want to talk about himself and his problems rather than listen to you when you need it.
  5. He’s probably insecure. The selfie king needs the approval of others and “likes” in order to feel worthy. If he doesn’t get them, he’ll feel depressed and worry that he’s not gorgeous or interesting enough. Guess who’ll have to listen to his crap? If you’re dating him, it’ll be you. You don’t need that kind of drama.
  6. He won’t be living in the moment. Instead of enjoying moments in life as they happen with you by his side, he’s going to be trying to get a selfie out of every single experience. For instance, when you point out a gorgeous sunset, he’ll want a picture of himself in front of it. If you’re ready to dig into that delicious slice of cake, you’ll need to hold on for a minute — he’ll want a picture of himself eating it for all his followers to see.
  7. He’s likely to be a phubber. If he’s always taking selfies, he’ll probably be checking his phone every five minutes to see who’s liked and commented on his pictures. This means when you’re trying to spend quality time with him, he’ll be on his phone phubbing you — or in other words, totally ignoring you to pay attention to his screen.
  8. He values his online life too much. A guy who posts a lot of selfies values his internet life and how he appears on social media. He wants to give the illusion of perfection to impress others. But it’s total BS because everyone knows those selfies have been edited and filtered beyond recognition. Who does he think he’s fooling? It makes you wonder what he’s lacking in real life that makes him so focused on his digital footprint.
  9. He places too much importance on his appearance. This guy places a lot of value on his looks, which can be seen in all of his annoying AF selfies.  His focus on the superficial will make it hard to develop a real relationship with him.
  10. He might have a wandering eye. Being in a relationship with a selfie king can make you wonder if he’s likely to cheat. It seems like a long shot, but just think: why is he caught up in the need to impress people online? Is he hoping to attract other women, keeping his relationship options open? Some guys might just use selfies as a confidence boost, but you can bet that some of them are posting those shirtless pics to catch the eye of other women.
  11. He’s desperate for attention. There’s nothing more off-putting than a grown man who has an insatiable thirst for attention. The selfie habit is all about trying to make people look his way. He’s probably also like that in real life, trying too hard to be the life of the party or taking hours to get dressed so that he can be the hottest guy in the room. It’s like a child screaming at people to notice him.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.