You’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea in life, and that’s fine. However, sometimes the people in your life aren’t necessarily there by choice, and even though they act like they’re your friend or that they like you, their behavior tells a whole other story. If you notice these signs, their feelings for you are less than positive, that’s for sure.
1. Their replies are always short and not-so-sweet.
When someone consistently gives you one-word answers or minimal responses, it’s a clear indicator they’re disinterested in engaging with you. Short replies are a subtle but definite sign they’d rather be doing anything else.
2. They never make the first move to contact you.
If you’re always initiating contact and they never start a conversation or plan to meet, it’s not an oversight; it’s avoidance. They’re deliberately keeping their distance. Sure, it needs to be a two-way street, but if it’s all you, that’s obviously not the case, is it?
3. They look anywhere but into your eyes.
Eye contact is a sign of interest and comfort. If someone’s gaze always slides away or they can’t meet your eyes, it’s a sign that they don’t like you very much and don’t want you to get the idea that they do. It sucks but it’s (probably) true.
4. Their body language screams “stay away.”
Pay attention to crossed arms, leaning away, or turning their body from you during conversations. This body language is a non-verbal cue of their hidden dislike. They can’t be relaxed and happy around you because, well, they’re not. Ouch.
5. Their politeness feels cold and kinda forced.
When their smiles don’t reach their eyes, and their laughs seem fake, it’s politeness without warmth. This is a classic disguise for hidden dislike. They want to be polite and avoid confrontation, but they just can’t bring themselves to find any genuine connection with you.
6. They ignore what you do on social media.
If they’re active online but never react to or acknowledge your posts, it’s a deliberate choice. They’re not just busy; they’re uninterested. Obviously, social media isn’t everything, but given that people are pretty glued to it, it does hold significance.
7. They’re quick to correct you on anything and everything.
Persistently correcting minor mistakes or constantly pointing out flaws isn’t helpfulness; it’s a subtle form of contempt. They want you to tear you down because they don’t like you. It’s not right, but a lot of people do it anyway.
8. They never inquire about your life.
A lack of personal questions about your life, plans, or feelings is a tell-tale sign. It’s not forgetfulness; it’s disinterest. They don’t really care about what’s going on with you because you’re not their friend (or at least they wish you weren’t).
9. They exclude you from conversations.
Notice when they talk to everyone but you, or subtly cut you out of the group chat. It’s a clear signal you’re not welcome in their inner circle. They’re hoping you’ll take the hint and just fade away on your own without them having to have an awkward conversation.
10. Their compliments always have a sting.
Beware of backhanded compliments or those that feel undermining. These are hostile jabs dressed up as politeness. It would be better if they just didn’t say anything at all rather than making their distaste for you so blatant.
11. They change the topic whenever you start talking.
Consistently shifting the conversation when you chime in isn’t just poor manners. It’s a signal that your thoughts and opinions are undervalued. That, or they’re just not interested in what you have to say. Rude!
12. They’re eternally too busy for you.
If they’re always too swamped to spend time with you, understand it’s not just a packed schedule; it’s deliberate avoidance. If they wanted to see you, they’d make time, no matter how busy they were. It’s really not that hard.
13. They never invite you out in return.
If your invitations are never reciprocated, it’s not forgetfulness. They simply don’t want to spend their time with you. You shouldn’t be the one making all the plans and forcing the connection. If it’s one-sided, it needs to stop.
14. They have a selective memory about you.
Noticing that they remember details about others but forget your key moments? This selective memory is a red flag showing where their interests lie. They can’t keep those little details in their heads because they probably weren’t listening when you first shared them.
15. The conversation dies when you join in.
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If the group chat suddenly falls silent when you arrive, it’s not a coincidence. It’s a sign that you’re not welcome in the conversation. They’re either talking about you or about something they don’t want your input on, which seriously sucks.
16. They seem irritated with you for no real reason.
Consistent irritability or annoyance in your presence, especially when you’ve done nothing wrong, is a sign of someone’s hidden discomfort or dislike towards you. It’s like your mere existence offends them for some unknown reason. Ugh.
17. They avoid spending one-on-one time with you.
If they’re fine in groups but never agree to hang out alone, it’s a red flag. They’re avoiding the intimacy and closeness of one-on-one interactions with you. By keeping other people around, they have to deal with you less, and that’s a win for them.
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