Sisters before misters — it’s rule one of girl code. We’re supposed to put our friends in front of our boyfriends, no matter what, but it’s ridiculous to expect me to follow such a silly rule when I’m in a serious relationship with the love of my life. If you ask me, putting my boyfriend in front of my friends isn’t actually a crime.
- My boyfriend is my best friend. My boyfriend isn’t just some guy I keep around so I can mooch off of his Netflix and occasionally get an orgasm. He’s my best friend, so if I choose to stay in with him over going out to party with my gal pals, I don’t see it as choosing a man over my friends. I’m just choosing one friend over another.
- Relationships require a load of work. It takes a lot more effort to make a relationship work than it takes to make a friendship work. I can go weeks without speaking to certain friends, but we’ll still be close. Of course, if I went weeks without speaking to my boyfriend, a breakup would be in order.
- I’m not taking my friendships for granted. I haven’t forgotten that my friends exist, just because I’m in a relationship. I still hang out with them whenever I get the chance, so if I occasionally turn them down to stay in and cuddle my boyfriend, give me a break. I’m trying my best to make everyone happy.
- Neglecting him wouldn’t be fair. I have certain responsibilities as a girlfriend, like being there when he needs me. He’s not my entire life. He’s just a huge part of it.
- I shouldn’t have to choose. I’m sorry, but I don’t want to go to a party without my boyfriend. If he was invited too, then I’d be happy to attend. You might not like it, but we’re a two-for-one deal.
- I have set plans. Most of my friends try to make plans at the last second, and by then, I’m already busy with my boyfriend. I see him at the same time every week. We have a routine.
- My boyfriend isn’t always to blame. He’s not actually the reason why I’ve been turning down invitations to the club. I’m just getting older and have a different view on “fun.” I’d rather stay in and get to bed early than suffer from a hangover in the morning.
- I have a busy life. I have a job that takes up a huge chunk of my time. When I’m lucky enough to get a break from my hectic schedule, my boyfriend is going to be the first person I call. Can you blame me?
- I treat him the way I want him to treat me. If he chose to see his best friend instead of going on our scheduled date, I’d be pissed. I’m not going to do the same to him when I know how it would make him feel. I try my best to be a good girlfriend, because I expect him to be a good boyfriend.
- I enjoy being around my boyfriend. I’m not going to apologize for wanting to spend time with him. I love him. He makes me happy.
