Yes, I’m High Maintenance — But I’m Worth It

Yes, I’m High Maintenance — But I’m Worth It ©iStock/Antonio_Diaz

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned that I have certain quirks to my personality that can be a little… annoying and over-the-top to some. However, despite my high maintenance tendencies, I’m worth the headache in a relationship.

  1. I only nag you because I care. Ever heard the saying, “If she’s not fighting with you, you’re in trouble?” Well, it’s true. It’s normal and healthy to occasionally bicker with your significant other. The more you discuss your thoughts and opinions (in a hopefully cordial manner) with your partner, the better you’ll be at understanding each other’s viewpoints. I may nag you a lot, but that’s only because I value our relationship.
  2. I need constant reassurance because I respect your feelings. I may double and triple check everything with you before I make a final decision, but that’s just because I want to make sure we’re always on the same page. The more we communicate, the less likely we’ll be to butt heads.
  3. I require lots of affection and attention, but I offer the same (and more) in return. Need I say more? I’m a woman after all, and we do nothing better than showing our loved ones how much we love and appreciate them. You’ll never be left without a few kisses and hugs, at least. I would never expect anything that I wasn’t prepared to offer in return.
  4. I may seem like a complicated person to please, but that doesn’t mean that I can’t be satisfied. I’m simply picky about what fulfills me. Women who are easy to please most likely don’t have much of a reason to be expecting more than what you’re giving them. I know what I like, what I don’t and what I want out of life and love — that’s not really a bad thing, is it?
  5. I always reward you with more than enough sexual favors for ensuring my happiness at all times. I know I’m difficult, and I notice when people put genuine effort into guaranteeing my well-being. I’ve lived long enough to recognize my faults, and many times I notice I’m being high maintenance; I just can’t help it. That’s where the sex comes in!
  6. A lot of times, being overly crazy about things prevents mishaps from happening. Sure, I may make you check that the door is locked every night, but that’s only because my worst nightmare is the cats getting out and us waking up to an empty apartment. Many things I nag about have some importance. I don’t just make things up out of thin air to complain about.
  7. High maintenance girls usually know what they want and go after it. You don’t have to worry about wondering what I’m thinking all the time because I’ll tell you. I don’t have time to mope around all day and wait for you to finally discover that all I want is a back massage. If I’ve had a long day at work, you bet I’m going to let you know.
  8. I always recognize and appreciate the extra effort you put into pleasing me. I’ve been in enough relationships to understand that not everyone can handle me, and that’s okay. As long as I see you trying, I’m going to give you credit for dealing with me.
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