Is Your Partner Jealous Of You? 12 Signs They’re Intimidated By Your Success

Your partner’s supposed to pop the champagne when you get that promotion at work or achieve your dreams, but what if they’re actually not supportive of you? If they’re showing any of these 11 signs, they’re jealous of you and making your relationship a toxic competition.

  1. Their compliments don’t sound genuine. Although your partner will say that you’re so amazing and you deserve this success because you’ve worked so hard, it just doesn’t feel like their response is authentic. Maybe they’re going over the top to try to compensate for the fact that they’re actually not that happy for you.
  2. They get into a bad mood. After you’ve shared the good news with your partner, they get super quiet or start to look moody. Although they might say this is due to their own stuff when you ask them about it, you’ve noticed that it happens whenever something good happens to you.
  3. They give you “advice” you didn’t ask for. When you share something awesome that happened to you, your partner will be quick to dish out the “good advice,” like how you can’t trust people out there or how hard the industry is and you have to be so careful… They can go on about this for hours in a mansplaining fashion. You didn’t even ask them for a lecture, but thanks.
  4. They’re unavailable when you have good news. While they’re always around when you’re going through a bad time, they seem to go AWOL for a bit when you’re having a great time. It’s clear that they love feeling needed by you when you’re down and out but can’t handle it when you’re on top of the world. It sucks.
  5. They need you when you’re needed elsewhere. You have to work harder now that you’ve been doing so well at work so you stay at the office a bit later. Or, you’re shopping for last-minute items you need before jet-setting somewhere fantastic. Whatever the situation, when you need to dedicate time to something else, that’s the exact moment when your partner needs you for something. It’s always something that can wait, but it’s like they choose the worst moment to try to get your attention.
  6. They make sarcastic comments. When you’re going through a good patch in life because life’s going your way, your partner will try to bring you down with sarcastic comments. They might say, “Wow, look at you and how much better you dress now that you’ve got a promotion,” which really doesn’t feel like a compliment. It’s so true what they say—jealousy makes you nasty.
  7. They tell you no one achieved what you want to achieve. You want to be a movie star or novelist. Yes, many people haven’t made it in the industry, but your partner doesn’t have to throw the sad stories in your face. He should be uplifting you and helping you focus on your goals if they’re important to you.
  8. They cause drama at events that are important to you. When you invite your partner to your work event where you’re accepting an award, they end up fighting with one of your co-workers or moaning about something, or even pitching up late. There’s always drama.
  9. They try to steal the spotlight. It’s your big day and you’re excited to share your story with them, but all they want to do is one-up your news with something that happened to them, whether good or bad. They just want to be the center of attention all the time, for any reason they can find. Ugh.
  10. They cause you to keep good news to yourself. If you get the feeling not to share the great news of your promotion with your partner, perhaps the reason why is that they never really support your success. Perhaps their weird or negative reactions to your success in the past have put you off. That sucks!
  11. They suddenly become motivated. Although it’s good to feel motivated by someone else’s success so you can go out and achieve your goals, it’s weird if your partner suddenly starts chasing his or her dreams just as yours are coming true. It’s like they’re bitten by a bug to achieve something bigger and better than what you’ve achieved. Yup, that stinks of jealousy.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.