People Who Regret Getting Married (But Won’t Admit It) Usually Display These 16 Behaviors

People Who Regret Getting Married (But Won’t Admit It) Usually Display These 16 Behaviors

You consider your wedding day one of the happiest days in your life, and you’ve always assumed your partner feels the same. Why wouldn’t they? Well, if you notice these things happening in your marriage, your spouse may be regretting getting married at all and doesn’t want to admit it.

1. They Keep Things to Themselves.

If you’re always the last one to know about their day or their thoughts, it could be a sign of regret. They might not be opening up because they’re wrestling with feelings they don’t want to admit, even to themselves. This emotional distance can create a gap in the relationship, preventing you from maintaining a meaningful connection and enjoying your shared experiences.

2. They’re Overly Critical of You.

Are they constantly picking on you, even for the smallest things? They might be projecting their dissatisfaction onto you instead of dealing with the real issue — their regret about getting married. This constant criticism can wear down the relationship and lower your self-esteem, which then creates a hostile environment.

3. They Avoid Quality Time.

If they’re always too busy for a dinner date or a movie night, take note. Avoiding quality time could be their subconscious way of distancing themselves from the relationship. A lack of shared experiences can lead to you two growing apart, and it emphasizes the lack of commitment to nurturing the relationship. Is that really how you want to live?

4. They’re Always Irritated.

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If they’re always in a bad mood around you, they might be regretting the decision to get married. Their constant irritation could be a sign of their internal struggle. This constant negativity can bring down the overall mood and happiness in your relationship, making you feel like you’re always walking on eggshells.

5. They Constantly Talk About the Past.

Do they often talk about their life before marriage, and not in a good way? They could be longing for their old life, which is a sign they might regret the commitment they’ve made. This constant comparison to the past can make you feel like you’re competing with a ghost, and it may prevent both of you from fully embracing your present life.

6. They’re Not Invested In Your Future Together.

If they’re reluctant to discuss or plan your future together, it’s a potential sign of regret. They might be avoiding these conversations because it reminds them of their commitment. This lack of enthusiasm about your shared future can lead to uncertainty and insecurity in your relationship, leaving you feeling unsteady and unsure about your path forward.

7. They Don’t Show Affection.

A lack of affection can speak volumes. If they’re not as cuddly or affectionate as they used to be, they might be regretting getting married. This change can make you feel unloved or unwanted, which can chip away at your confidence and happiness in the relationship for obvious reasons. Who wants to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with them?

8. They’re Always Picking Fights.

If they’re always starting arguments over trivial things, they might be expressing their regret indirectly. The constant conflict could be a sign that they’re unhappy in the marriage. These unnecessary arguments can lead to an increase in stress and tension in your relationship, potentially causing more harm than good.

9. They’re Spending More Time Alone.

If they’re spending more time alone or with friends than with you, it could be a sign of regret. They might be seeking solace in solitude or finding distractions to avoid confronting their feelings. The increased distance can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness in the relationship, straining the connection that you two share.

10. They’re Not Interested in Your Life.

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If they show little or no interest in your day-to-day life, it could be a red flag. Their apparent disinterest might be a sign that they’re emotionally detaching themselves from the relationship. This indifference towards your experiences can make you feel undervalued and ignored, diminishing the sense of companionship in your marriage.

11. They’re Avoiding Physical Intimacy.

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A noticeable decrease in physical intimacy could be a sign of marital regret. They might be pulling away physically as a result of their internal struggle. This lack of physical connection can create feelings of rejection and self-doubt, causing significant damage to your emotional bond.

12. They’re Often Lost in Thought.

If they seem frequently distracted or detached, they might be grappling with feelings of regret. Their preoccupied mind could be a sign that they’re wrestling with their emotions. This constant state of distraction can make you feel neglected and overlooked, undermining the mutual attention that is vital for a thriving relationship.

13. They’re Overly Independent.

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If they’re excessively insisting on doing everything on their own, they might be trying to reclaim the independence they feel they’ve lost. This overemphasis on self-reliance can leave you feeling excluded, creating a divide in the partnership that marriage is supposed to be.

14. They Seem Unhappy, But Can’t Explain Why.

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If they’re generally unhappy and can’t pinpoint why, they might be subconsciously regretting the marriage. Their unexplained unhappiness can create a cloud of negativity over your relationship, making it hard to foster joy and positivity within the marriage.

15. They’re Making Major Decisions Without You.

If they’re making big decisions without consulting you, it’s a potential sign of regret. They might be excluding you from these decisions because they’re distancing themselves from the relationship. This can lead to feelings of disrespect and unimportance, eroding the mutual respect necessary for a successful marriage.

16. They’re No Longer Your Biggest Cheerleader.

If they’re not supporting you or celebrating your achievements like they used to, they might be dealing with regret. Their lack of support can leave you feeling alone and unsupported in your endeavors, contradicting the shared joy and support that a marriage should provide.

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Originally from Australia, Emma Mills graduated from the University of Queensland with a dual degree in Philosophy and Applied Linguistics before moving to Los Angeles to become a professional matchmaker (a bit of a shift, obviously). Since 2015, she has helped more than 150 people find lasting love and remains passionate about bringing amazing singletons together.

Emma is also the author of the upcoming Hachette publication, "Off the Beaten Track: Finding Lasting Love in the Least Likely of Places," due out in January 2025.