Does your boyfriend change the subject, ignore you, get angry or flat out run away whenever you try to bring up the future? That’s not normal committed, loving boyfriend behavior. It’s time to face the reality that if he doesn’t want to discuss the future, it’s probably because you won’t have one.
He should be excited to plan a life with you.
You want to talk about the future because you’re excited about the life you’re going to live together, so why isn’t he just as excited? Maybe men don’t dream about their wedding day or future children as much as women do, but they still have dreams. If he saw a life with you in it, then he’d be excited to tell you those dreams because they’re all a part of a life he wants to build together.
It’s just another way a man avoids making a real commitment.
He’ll come up with any excuse in the book to avoid what you are to each other and where things are headed. Men who don’t want to talk about the future don’t want to commit to that future. He has his own ideas of where his life is headed and he’s not convinced that you’re headed there with him.
He’s not just “living in the present.”
Don’t let that excuse fool you. He isn’t simply focusing on the now — he doesn’t want to talk about the future for a reason. Some guys like to make you feel crazy. They turn the tables when you ask about the future by wondering why you can’t just be happy with what you have now. He’s manipulating you to focus on your relationship as-is so you stop feeling like you need or want more — because more is exactly what he doesn’t want to give you.
He doesn’t want to define the relationship.
If a guy doesn’t see a future with you, he likes to keep things up in the air. He doesn’t put any labels on things or any parameters on your relationship. He likes to hold a big question mark over the future because if it remains undefined, then he doesn’t have to admit that your relationship has an expiration date.
He doesn’t want to make you promises that he probably can’t keep.
He’s being intentionally vague about the future because he doesn’t want you to hold any words against him when you don’t end up together. Men make promises they don’t keep all the time, but most of them at least try to avoid this. He won’t make plans because he doesn’t want you to think he’s a scumbag for being with you even though he knows it’s only temporary.
You deserve to know if you want different things out of life.
It’s normal for you to want to check in and discuss what you want out of life and if you have a shared dream for your future. Couples need to know if their relationships have an actual possibility of lasting a lifetime. If you’re going in different directions, the sooner you find out, the better. If he already knows this and just isn’t ready to end the relationship, then talking about the future will never be on his radar.
Healthy communication is necessary to any lasting relationships.
If you can’t talk about the future, what are you allowed to talk about? Why are there any stipulations on what you can or can’t discuss with your significant other? If he’s the right guy for you, your “soulmate,” then you should be able to talk about anything and everything. If you can’t, well, that’s a sign of a much deeper problem.
If he wanted a future with you, he’d actually want to talk about it.
Both men and women can’t help but talk about the things in life they really want. We love to keep striving for more, so if a future with you is something he truly wants, then why isn’t he willing to talk about it? You don’t have to plan out your entire lives in one night, but he also shouldn’t be avoiding the discussion at all costs.
He’s not sure you’re the girl he wants.
Maybe for now, but forever is a long time. If he’s uncertain about the relationship, that’s your first clue that things are never going to work out. You need a man who knows exactly how he feels about you and doesn’t question whether or not you’re the girl for him. If he doesn’t know what he wants, it’s because he has yet to find it.
He doesn’t want you to know that you’re not on the same page.
He doesn’t want to commit, but that doesn’t mean he wants you to kick him out of your life. If you figure out you’re on different pages, you might leave him, and that’s a risk he’s avoiding. So for as long as he can, he’s going to keep you in the dark. As long as you’re clueless about your future, he doesn’t have to admit you don’t have one.
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