11 Reasons It’s Good That He Doesn’t Want to Rush Things

You might flinch when he says he wants to take things slow, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Here are 11 reasons why it can be good for both of you and your future relationship if you don’t rush things and instead let them progress naturally and at a bit more of a relaxed pace.

  1. He’s paying attention. Instead of love-bombing you or making it seem like he’s just rushing into things, he’s taking a more measured approach. That means he’s paying attention to what’s going on between you two instead of running into a relationship blindly.
  2. He wants to enjoy things. While a guy you want to be serious with who says he wants to keep things as they are can be a red flag, a guy you’ve just met is probably being genuine when he says he wants to enjoy things before moving too fast. That’s a great thing, in fact. If you rush, you don’t get a chance to smell the roses and enjoy the experience of dating.
  3. He listens to his heart. He’s clearly a guy who pays attention to his feelings and intuition and that’s a good thing! If he slows down to a stop and your relationship hits a dead-end, at least you’ll know sooner rather than later. With a guy who rushes into a serious relationship, there’s much more risk of your heart getting smashed and your precious time wasted.
  4. You get a chance to listen to your heart too. Moving slowly doesn’t just benefit him, it’s also good for you. You can stop and pay attention to your feelings. Do you really like him or are you just getting swept up in the idea of him or the fun you two have together? You can’t stop and think things through if you’re so busy rushing into a relationship. Slow down and listen to your inner voice. Hint: it loves to make itself heard during slower, quieter moments.
  5. You really get to know him. There’s always so much to know about the person you’re crushing on. Before making them your official partner in crime, you should know them pretty well and see them in different situations. That’s why the early, slightly more carefree days of dating are so crucial. You can experience different things that will help you figure out if they’re meant to be your person or not.
  6. You slow down the spark. Feeling that chemistry with someone is amazing, but it can also be blinding. You don’t want to be so swept away by the spark you feel with someone that you totally ignore the reality of your situation. If you take time to slow down a little, you can see the relationship for what it really is instead of building it up in your head into something it’s not.
  7. You see his flaws. Speaking about seeing reality, you really should try to see his downsides ASAP. That way, you’ll be able to figure out if they’re something you can deal with or giant red flags telling you to run in the other direction. If you’re rushing into something with the guy, you won’t be able to really pay attention to red flags. Heck, you might not even realize there are any!
  8. You don’t let the love take over your life. It’s easy to start neglecting the rest of your life when a great relationship falls into it. You might ignore your friends, career, or your own goals. Worst case scenario, you can end up losing yourself to this new exciting love. That’s the last thing you want to happen.
  9. You fit him into your schedule. Taking your time when meeting someone new can be a good way to slowly incorporate the relationship into your life. Hey, you’re busy building an empire and doing you, so you shouldn’t put any of that on hold for a second just because you’ve met someone new. If you take things slowly with the new guy, you can balance all your priorities in a much better way that won’t leave you feeling drained of energy or frazzled.
  10. You build up the fire. You might have felt sparks on your first date, but there’s a good reason why you should hold off seeing his bedroom until you know each other a bit better. There’s nothing better than building anticipation and slow-burning your way to an electrified relationship. It makes you appreciate what you have much more than if you rush in.
  11. You see if he’s worth it. When you keep a bit of a cooler head in the early days of a new relationship, you give yourself the chance to suss out if a guy’s going to step up and be an amazing person to date or if he’s not worth your time. You owe it to yourself to learn this valuable info, so if he wants to go slow, realize that it’s actually better for you. Of course, going slow doesn’t mean that he’s not going to make you a priority and show you he cares. If he doesn’t do that, then you know “going slow” is just a way for him to say he’s not that into you.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.